Re: affecting my marriage...over

From: teresa hunt (
Fri Oct 29 00:27:17 1999

Toni, I am so sorry to hear of your problems. My husband and my entire family have learned to overlook me when I "blow up". I know it's hard when your in pain to control your feelings and temper. It really sounds like your full and running over. You really shouldn't keep everything to yourself. It's not healthly for you or your family to keep it bottled up. I am happy to see you did try to "talk" to someone (even those here on the forum). I hope you get to speak with your counsler soon. My husband agrees with me ( I spoke to him about your situation, just to see if he could relate, ((he does)) the pain, the meds and not to mention ALL the stress you have been under in the past few months is enough to cause anyone to "BLOW UP". If you didn't really mean what you said to your husband, then TELL HIM SO, SOON! We all say things we don't want to in the heat of an argument. Eighteen years is a long time and he's suck with you this long. I always pray and somehow it makes "me" feel, I will pray for you and your family to turn out for the best. You can email me private if you like. Been there and haven't left yet, Teresa P.S. I am new grandma tonight "3 new puppies"

>From: (toni welsh)
>To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <>
>Subject: affecting my marriage...over
>Date: Thu, 28 Oct 1999 07:55:39 -0500
>I hate to write to any of you this morning, but I have no where to turn
>now. My 18 yera anniversary is Saturday, and or relation ship is
>falling apart fsat. I do not think I can deal with this day alone,
>after a awful night last night. I have cried so much, when I got up I
>could not open my eyes, they were not this swollen since grandma died in
>I cannot beleive the way the evening went, first I had my handicapped
>sister and I was trying to bath her, she is 140, and I weigh 97 now, she
>is rough, then her and I came out to the kitchen, and my son went out to
>light the gas grill, when he turned it on and hit the switch, I looked
>out and I saw a huge ball of yellow, and he yelled, and he could not
>see, it happened so fast I did not know what happened. He was fine, but
>it had scared him too. Well, since that happened my husband got angry,
>making fun of me, and out of the blue, I told him I do not love him
>anymore, and I removed my rings, and told him I do not want them any
>more. I do not know why I said this, he has shut me off for a few days,
>but I have kept my dealing with things with me to my self. I would go
>on forever if I talked about this, but I think the marriage is rocky as
>hell, and now I am scared, if I lose my husband all I have is dad and my
>son, his girlfriend who I adore hurt me too! I feel like my life is
>The arguing did not stop most of the night, too long, I am now convinced
>men do not uderstand!
>I paged my counselor, and she could not talk and when she called back, I
>missed hercall. Hate to bother them after hours!

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