Re: Negativity

From: Christine M. Smith (
Tue Oct 5 09:32:00 1999

At Tue, 5 Oct 1999, Peggy wrote: >
>Some posts that I read have quite a bit of negativity in them.And my
>personal opinion is that on a forum we are suppose to be supportive,Not
>try to bring people down with negative comments.I am trying to have an
>open mind and except what other people comment about, but I have to say
>that Igor's post was very negative.I asked my husband to read it and his
>opinion was, that what Igor had written was all negative comments
>also.Again this is my personal opinion but I wonder why if Igor is cured
>of his problems with adhesions then why is he here? Yes some people did
>ask him what brought him to the point that he is at as far as not
>suffering but I don't think they expected the kind of responce that was
>given.I come to this forum looking for support and understanding.And
>sharing My experiences and looking for help.I took Igor's post as
>telling us to go it alone,Don't read the newapapers,Don't watch
>television,Don't search the web, Stay away from medical professions.In
>other words suffer and suffer in silence.This is the way that I
>percieved his post.Am I wrong in thinking this or do others feel the

Hi Peggy: According to the dictionary, one of the definitions of a "Forum" is "an assembly, place, radio program, for the discussion of public matters or questions" also "an opportunity for open discussion." That is the way I would think a forum should be used, although not necessarily entirely. It is an opportunity for *discusion*. Discussion is going to involve both negative and positive aspects. It is possible to do this without attacking a participant personally, which is not good. A support group provides support, which I believe is a little different. A forum can but a forum can lso be a support group. This is my criticism of the adhesion forum. There is some discussion on it but many are quick to point out when that discussion takes a negative turn as if that is bad. I don't agree with a lot of what Igor says, especially the part about doing it all alone. If you feel like discussing it with him, fine. If it really bothers you, remain silent. (hopefully too many would not do that, or it is not a forum anymore)But do not ban such comments as Igor has made or you lose a very valuable aspect of the forum.

Chris S.

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