I have very unusal in-laws and since I can not work because of my
problems with adhesions I am the one everyone calls about problems. The
story is long but I will try and get to the point. My husbands parents
have 2 grandchildren my husbands brothers little boy who is 5 and our
son who is 3, they spend 4 days a week with Randy picking him up from
school and take him to Walmart and spend at least $30 a week on toys and
candy, it took me threatening to never talking to them to get them to
spend time with our son, they never ask Jordan to go to Walmart with
them or buy him gifts, I even suggested that they just give Jordan the
same amount they spend on Randy to put in Jordans savings account, they
never repsonded. When the family gets together they smother Randy with
hugs and words of praise and hardley speak to Jordan. Jordan loves them
and when they do come by to see him he is thrilled. At Christmas last
year after we opened gifts and we went home they went to Randys home and
took him more gifts. I have always been the person who makes sure that
we all get together on holidays and spcial occasions, my husband and his
brother have just started becoming friends since our children were born,
there was alot of mistrust between them and I can see why it almost
seems that their parents pit them against each other. They want our
children to be close, but with their parents spending so much much more
time and money on Randy, Jordan will eventually notice and he will
resent Randy. Also my mother in law hates Randys new step mom and is
always trying to blame her for everything that goes wrong, David my
husbands brother wants to have Christmas at their house this year and my
mother in law is mad because they ask me to tell her, they knew how she
would react and I am the only one who can stay calm and not wring her
neck. She refused to make anything to bring unless they call and ask
her to. I think everyone get s the picture on how things are no one in
this family can get along, they are always looking for the bad in each
other, and I am the one they call to vent. I want to say a prayer this
Christmas about forgiving, trying to look for the good in each other,
how our actions reflect on our children, on treating our children and
grandchildren equally, that life is short and how much we have to be
greatful for. The problem is I am not good at writing this sort of
thing and sort of start rambling like I am now. I know alot of you are
good writers and if any of you know a prayer that fits my situation or
can write one please email it to me at nancebln@earthlink.net.
I hope all of you have a wonderful Christmas and New Year.