Re: This is not adhesion related but need help with in-law problem

From: Dawn (dawn@naisp.net)
Thu Dec 19 20:37:48 2002


At Thu, 19 Dec 2002, Brenda wrote: >Aw jimminy Brenda. You have been through so much. Why not just stay home, without guilt and enjoy a nuclear family kind of Christmas. Enjoy your wonderful son, watch him enjoy his gifts...they grow old fast.
I did have a thought while reading thru that you mentioned you M.I.L. does not like Randy's new step mother. Maybe the downfall of that marriage made her feel especially bad for the kid. Some kind of bad guilt going on. Maybe she figues you guys are OK.I am trying to weasel out of my big family shin dig for alot of the same reasons. I just want peace for Christmas....been a hard year for so many. Merry Christmas darling. I hope you find the peace to reflect on that beautiful dat. Much love, Dawn >I have very unusal in-laws and since I can not work because of my
>problems with adhesions I am the one everyone calls about problems. The
>story is long but I will try and get to the point. My husbands parents
>have 2 grandchildren my husbands brothers little boy who is 5 and our
>son who is 3, they spend 4 days a week with Randy picking him up from
>school and take him to Walmart and spend at least $30 a week on toys and
>candy, it took me threatening to never talking to them to get them to
>spend time with our son, they never ask Jordan to go to Walmart with
>them or buy him gifts, I even suggested that they just give Jordan the
>same amount they spend on Randy to put in Jordans savings account, they
>never repsonded. When the family gets together they smother Randy with
>hugs and words of praise and hardley speak to Jordan. Jordan loves them
>and when they do come by to see him he is thrilled. At Christmas last
>year after we opened gifts and we went home they went to Randys home and
>took him more gifts. I have always been the person who makes sure that
>we all get together on holidays and spcial occasions, my husband and his
>brother have just started becoming friends since our children were born,
>there was alot of mistrust between them and I can see why it almost
>seems that their parents pit them against each other. They want our
>children to be close, but with their parents spending so much much more
>time and money on Randy, Jordan will eventually notice and he will
>resent Randy. Also my mother in law hates Randys new step mom and is
>always trying to blame her for everything that goes wrong, David my
>husbands brother wants to have Christmas at their house this year and my
>mother in law is mad because they ask me to tell her, they knew how she
>would react and I am the only one who can stay calm and not wring her
>neck. She refused to make anything to bring unless they call and ask
>her to. I think everyone get s the picture on how things are no one in
>this family can get along, they are always looking for the bad in each
>other, and I am the one they call to vent. I want to say a prayer this
>Christmas about forgiving, trying to look for the good in each other,
>how our actions reflect on our children, on treating our children and
>grandchildren equally, that life is short and how much we have to be
>greatful for. The problem is I am not good at writing this sort of
>thing and sort of start rambling like I am now. I know alot of you are
>good writers and if any of you know a prayer that fits my situation or
>can write one please email it to me at nancebln@earthlink.net.
>I hope all of you have a wonderful Christmas and New Year.
>
>Thank you for listening to me.
>Gentle Hugs
>Brenda

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I'm no doctor, just a fellow sufferer like you but I hope you consider me a new friend.

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