Lori ") Intimacy-feelings
From: Chrissy492@aol.com
Sun Jul 14 11:50:52 2002
Hi Sweet Lori,
When you wrote about the intimate moments with your husband I totally
understood what you were saying. You pay for it the next day double.
You want to have that special time with your husband, but you're also
thinking about how much pain you're going to be in just for doing something
normal a couple do.
I had a total abdominal hysterectomy (TAH) 6 years ago and ever since then
I've lost that loving feeling. Has this ever happened to you or anyone else
here? I think part of it is because I think about the extra pain I'm going
to be in the next day. I've noticed since my TAH my sex drive is so low that
it's really not there. My poor husband has been so good about this, but my
heart hurts so much that I can't offer him the intimacy we once shared a
long, long, long time ago.
I know there is viagra pills for woman now, I'm thinking of trying something
like that. Have you or anyone here had this problem? If so, what did you do
for it? Again, my husband has been so good about this situation, but my
heart feels so bad for him.
Hugs and lots of love,
~Chrissie xo's
Date: Fri, 12 Jul 2002 13:23:27 -0500 (CDT)
From: lori@theargo.com (Lori)
To: ADHESIONS@OBGYN.NET
Subject: Re: Tea- Lori ')
Message-ID: <200207121823.g6CINR316546@mail.medispecialty.com>
Thank you soo much Chrissy
These are just the words I needed to hear
Yes I too usually go along, then try to hide
the pain so I dont spoil it for my family.
Same as having intimate moments with my husband.
I usually say yes, because he has been soo understanding
thru this. Dont get me wrong, I dont do it against
my will, I want it too. I have urges also
But I just know the next day I will be laid up in pain
I was having a rough one yesterday.
When you have to program your mind on a day to day
basis to ignore the pain. And tell yourself, just take
it day by day, it will get better some day...
Not only your body gets tired, but your mind too
I just needed one day for a O' Woe is me day LOL
I am back to my usual optimistic self today, and
living for today. Cause thats really all any of us
have
Hugggz and thank you soo much again
I am soo very happy I found you guys
Pain Free Hugggz to all
Lori