Re: I don't know

From: marianne bolding (
Wed Aug 8 14:42:59 2001

Robin, Hi. I didn't think (after all the water I drank) that I'd get constipated from it...especially after white diarrhea yesterday...but, today...It is completely lodged. I might tear myself trying to push so hard...which also hurts the hernia. Coffee didn't work, acidophilus didn't work, now I'm trying metamucil...I just hate stool softners with a passion. I'm hoping cause I sure hate this feeling. I'm glad you're family stands behind you when you need them. It "should" be that way. My husband isn't so much insensitive as he is unknowing, unaware, and too tired to learn. It hits 105 here and he works outside all day. I can imagine it is draining...and then to have me asking him to read stuff and listen to me isn't as easy as I think it should be. We're all different, I guess. I could do it...but, he isn't me...(thank God sometimes for that, too!) All I can do is pray he will gain understanding somehow. My hubbys in-laws are like that, too. They too, need prayers as they have no clue sometimes!!! LOL It's so hard to make a marriage work and family interference just makes it tougher. I try to distance myself from getting involved. The hubbys have got to get physically tired of it one day and maybe then they'll stand up for themselves. (or so someone told me) LOL Take care of your self, Robin and thank you. Love, Marianne---P.S. where in AZ does your folks live? I'm in Tucson. I'll say hi for you :-) --- Robin <> wrote: > Dear Marianne
> I have had the barrium test done, it isn't fun. I
> had to take stuff
> afterwards to flush the barrium out of my system,
> which was awful! I am
> lucky that my husband & kids are supportive, but his
> family lives in the
> same town & can't be bothered to help him out,
> although they like to
> have his help with everything. I finally told his
> mom I was having
> surgery, she is going to cook for them while I am in
> the hospital. I
> told her that while I am in the hospital and
> recouping, nothing would be
> different around here, he has to work all day & then
> come home & cook &
> clean, but she doesn't get it. I just wish they
> would help him or
> atleast stop asking him for help. My parents are
> also supportive, but
> they live in AZ, so they arent able to help much. I
> hope things will
> get easier for you & you can find some support.
> love
> robin
> Tue, 7 Aug 2001, marianne bolding wrote:
> >
> >Well, I had an upper GI done yesterday. Talk about
> >nasty barrium stuff...bluck. Completely dehydrated
> my
> >body...and today I have a stomach ache along with
> >"pure" white diarrhea. I assume this is the
> barrium
> >trying to get out of my symptom. Anyone been
> there?
> >I'm going to reach out for a moment here...Ever
> since
> >diagnosis and surgeory I seem to be declining into
> a
> >serious mode of depression. Like "Post surgical
> >trauma/stress" or something. I don't
> just
> >seems that I've had to change everything in my
> life.
> >The way I eat, how I exert myself, eating or just
> >being in public due to gas, friends you thought
> were
> >friends---but they left you standing alone when you
> >needed support (family, too), the clothes I wear
> >(excessive bloating), my job and how they handled
> the
> >whole situation with me being out of work (moving
> my
> >office while I was out, losing my personal pictures
> >and properties, threatening to fire me if I didn't
> >recupe quick enough for them-even with doctors
> >documents), my relationship-I was telling my
> husband
> >last night I need more help and support mentally
> and
> >physically...he said "Huh?" (He was watching a
> >baseball game)...repeated myself and he said,
> "It'll
> >get better."...then started yelling at the ump on
> t.v.
> > He didn't get I needed to talk. When I told him I
> >needed it desperately...he said "I'm just so
> tired."
> >(He's always tired..or busy...or just selfish). I
> >told him in advance, I wouldn't probably feel well
> >after GI, I wasn't allowed to eat or even drink all
> >day yesterday before the test (and it hit 105 in
> >Tucson), I had only barrium in my stomach and that
> I
> >needed him to take care of our dinner for the first
> >time in 2 months. He said sure no prob. But, when
> >the day rolled around...he left it in my lap again.
> I
> >resent the fact I've been so supportive to all
> these
> >people when they needed it...but, noone can seem to
> >turn the tables back for me. My whole outlook on
> >people and life is changing. I don't know...thanks
> >for letting me share. And to not "thoroughly
> depress"
> >anyone else out there by my whiny letter...How many
> >cups of coffee can I drink to make my stool turn
> "not
> >white"? LOL and Don't you hate the pimples that
> are
> >under the whitehead so you can't squeeze
> >them...but, they hurt like a you know what! LOL
> >Pain-free days to all. My love, Marianne B.

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