Re: I don't know

From: Robin (
Thu Aug 9 07:36:40 2001

Dear Marianne Most of my family live in AZ. I have a sister who has a motel in Ajo. My brother lives in Chandler. My parents live in PHX around 43 Ave. Our daughter lives in El Mirage. I have 2 other sisters, one lives in New Mexico (about 4 hrs away) & the other lives in GA. After my barrium test, I took mineral oil (YUCK!!!!) Hope you are doing better today. love robin

At Wed, 8 Aug 2001, marianne bolding wrote: >
>Robin, Hi. I didn't think (after all the water I
>drank) that I'd get constipated from it...especially
>after white diarrhea yesterday...but, today...It is
>completely lodged. I might tear myself trying to push
>so hard...which also hurts the hernia. Coffee didn't
>work, acidophilus didn't work, now I'm trying
>metamucil...I just hate stool softners with a passion.
> I'm hoping cause I sure hate this feeling. I'm glad
>you're family stands behind you when you need them.
>It "should" be that way. My
>husband isn't so much insensitive as he is unknowing,
>unaware, and too tired to learn. It hits 105 here and
>he works outside all day. I can imagine it is
>draining...and then to have me asking him to read
>stuff and listen to me isn't as easy as I think it
>should be. We're all different, I guess. I could do
>it...but, he isn't me...(thank God sometimes for that,
>too!) All I can do is pray he will gain understanding
>somehow. My hubbys in-laws are like that, too. They
>too, need prayers as they have no clue sometimes!!!
>LOL It's so hard to make a marriage work and family
>interference just makes it tougher. I try to distance
>myself from getting involved. The hubbys have got to
>get physically tired of it one day and maybe then
>they'll stand up for themselves. (or so someone told
>me) LOL Take care of your self, Robin and thank you.
>Love, Marianne---P.S. where in AZ does your folks
>live? I'm in Tucson. I'll say hi for you :-)
>--- Robin <> wrote:
>> Dear Marianne
>> I have had the barrium test done, it isn't fun. I
>> had to take stuff
>> afterwards to flush the barrium out of my system,
>> which was awful! I am
>> lucky that my husband & kids are supportive, but his
>> family lives in the
>> same town & can't be bothered to help him out,
>> although they like to
>> have his help with everything. I finally told his
>> mom I was having
>> surgery, she is going to cook for them while I am in
>> the hospital. I
>> told her that while I am in the hospital and
>> recouping, nothing would be
>> different around here, he has to work all day & then
>> come home & cook &
>> clean, but she doesn't get it. I just wish they
>> would help him or
>> atleast stop asking him for help. My parents are
>> also supportive, but
>> they live in AZ, so they arent able to help much. I
>> hope things will
>> get easier for you & you can find some support.
>> love
>> robin
>> Tue, 7 Aug 2001, marianne bolding wrote:
>> >
>> >Well, I had an upper GI done yesterday. Talk about
>> >nasty barrium stuff...bluck. Completely dehydrated
>> my
>> >body...and today I have a stomach ache along with
>> >"pure" white diarrhea. I assume this is the
>> barrium
>> >trying to get out of my symptom. Anyone been
>> there?
>> >I'm going to reach out for a moment here...Ever
>> since
>> >diagnosis and surgeory I seem to be declining into
>> a
>> >serious mode of depression. Like "Post surgical
>> >trauma/stress" or something. I don't
>> just
>> >seems that I've had to change everything in my
>> life.
>> >The way I eat, how I exert myself, eating or just
>> >being in public due to gas, friends you thought
>> were
>> >friends---but they left you standing alone when you
>> >needed support (family, too), the clothes I wear
>> >(excessive bloating), my job and how they handled
>> the
>> >whole situation with me being out of work (moving
>> my
>> >office while I was out, losing my personal pictures
>> >and properties, threatening to fire me if I didn't
>> >recupe quick enough for them-even with doctors
>> >documents), my relationship-I was telling my
>> husband
>> >last night I need more help and support mentally
>> and
>> >physically...he said "Huh?" (He was watching a
>> >baseball game)...repeated myself and he said,
>> "It'll
>> >get better."...then started yelling at the ump on
>> t.v.
>> > He didn't get I needed to talk. When I told him I
>> >needed it desperately...he said "I'm just so
>> tired."
>> >(He's always tired..or busy...or just selfish). I
>> >told him in advance, I wouldn't probably feel well
>> >after GI, I wasn't allowed to eat or even drink all
>> >day yesterday before the test (and it hit 105 in
>> >Tucson), I had only barrium in my stomach and that
>> I
>> >needed him to take care of our dinner for the first
>> >time in 2 months. He said sure no prob. But, when
>> >the day rolled around...he left it in my lap again.
>> I
>> >resent the fact I've been so supportive to all
>> these
>> >people when they needed it...but, noone can seem to
>> >turn the tables back for me. My whole outlook on
>> >people and life is changing. I don't know...thanks
>> >for letting me share. And to not "thoroughly
>> depress"
>> >anyone else out there by my whiny letter...How many
>> >cups of coffee can I drink to make my stool turn
>> "not
>> >white"? LOL and Don't you hate the pimples that
>> are
>> >under the whitehead so you can't squeeze
>> >them...but, they hurt like a you know what! LOL
>> >Pain-free days to all. My love, Marianne B.

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