Re: Millie: some help with your anger

From: Millie (
Sun Feb 25 15:02:03 2001

Dear Trace, Thanks for the suggestions. This morning I thought I'd die when I tried to have a bm. It was awful. I took a Dulcolax suppository, and 3 Tbsp. Haleys M O with water. I finally went some, but the pains get worse. I went to see Dr. Redan, but my luck- he said he couldn't do anything right now. He looked at the scar, and pressed around. He said to wait a few months. I am to the point that I don't know what to do. I think I need to find new Drs. Yes, I was abused. The male nurse practitioner asked me in January - "Did you have your uterus yanked out yet?" I should have ran the other way then. I went back to their e.r., and the Dr. was not nice. He told me it is colic. I asked how he'd know without not running any tests. I told him that I am going to have to get away from them and find new Drs. I told him I know the surgery was unneeded. He got real smart and said, "YOU signed for it!~!" I told him we were supposed to have agreed that I wanted her to check for endo, and fix what she could of that, and she was going to check left ovary for adhesions, & cysts. She only wrote possible hyst. There's nothing on the pre op, or post op that showed the need for a hyst. Both said - chronic pelvic pain, endometriosis(she wrote 'minimal') and history of pelvic adhesions. Dr. Redan's medical assistant asked me why she took everything, and I said I also wonder. I saw Dr. Redan give him a funny look. Do you think he either figured for the money, or for some other reason. I saw the look he gave his helper. Millie

>----- Original Message -----
From: "niko" <> To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS" <> Sent: Sunday, February 25, 2001 12:26 AM Subject: Millie: some help with your anger

> Hi MIllie,
> Millie I see your anger in your messages, and we all sympathize immensely.
> Most of us have dealt with the same situations at one time or another. I
> used to believe that my anger kept me going. I was angry at the doctors,
> angry at my body, angry at anyone who would listen really. I have learnt
> alot from this board. One of the best revelations I have made is NOT to be
> angry anymore, You see it makes my condition 100% worse. I cannot take
back > what has been done to my body. It's unfair sometimes. It really is. My
> situation needn't have ended up with nearly 30 operations.
> Acceptance of things I cannot change releases the tension you will feel.
The > stress you are putting yourself under will be felt throughout your body.
You > do need time to let your body heal from your hysterectomy. It is a very
> major operation as unneccessary as it may well have been.
> I was able to communicate better with my doctors when I wasn't so angry.
It > enabled me to explore my options without any accusations and defenses they
> put up to me.
> Irritable Bowel is often misdiagnosed with adhesions, but it is also a
real > complaint. I take "Colofac", and it relaxes my bowel when it becomes
> irritated. I do not have irritable bowel symtoms from food, but from the
> operations. I only realised the extent of irratability when the tablets
> relaxed it. I know it sounds like doctors are "palming" your pain off, but
I > think it is worth entertaining this idea with the problems you are
> experiencing. Drink lots of water as it flushes your system and hydrates
> your bowel. A dehydrated bowel causes so much pain. I know this for a
fact. >
> When we are in constant pain, it makes you extremely edgy. It brings out
the > worst in anyone. How could it not? I don't think anyone truly understands
> until they've lived with it for awhile. You will have plenty of time when
> you are strong enough, to deal with these insensitive doctors.
> What was Dr. Redan's suggestions for helping your bowel movements?
> Millie, I truly hope that you find some relief, I really do. You have been
> mistreated and abused.
> I wish I could give you something to make it all right again, but I
> can't.... so the next best thing is our support.
> Your pain pal
> Trace xo

>> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Millie" <>
> To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS"
> <>
> Sent: Sunday, 25 February 2001 12:35
> Subject: Re: Re:Robin
> > Dawn'
> > I read your note about the pain from adhesions. It is a terrible thing.
I > > have not been right since I had the TAH in January. She tried to say
it's > > irritable bowel. She laughed it off. Last night I wentback to the e.r.
of > > that hospital, and I had the same e.r. dr. I saw a few days after
surgery. > > He wasn't too happy that I came back. All he did was bloodwork, and
tried > > to say it is a colic. Bull!! Then he came back in, and was kind of
> > nasty,when he asked me why I didn't take the medicine she prescribed. I
> told
> > him that what she prescribed was Bentyl, which is constipating, and so
is > > Effexor. I told him I am angry that she took everything but 1 ovary when
> > there was nothing really wrong with the organs. He got a bit snotty and
> > said, "well, you must have signed forit." I'd like to report him., if I
> knew
> > where. Also, sometime before I had the surgery , the male nurse
> practitioner
> > asked ,"Did you get your uterus ripped out yet?" He should be reported.
Of > > course, if if isn't on paper in a Drs. report, it doesn't exist in their
> > eyes. I am having even more problems going. I went to see Dr. Redan,
> > yesterday, but I came away even more discouraged, because he said to
wait > 3
> > months to be sure you're healed, then maybe he'd take a look. He looked
at > > the incision, and pressed around it some.
> > He was very nice, but I only saw him for 10 minutes at the most, after
> going
> > 60 miles. After hurrying to fax in forms to them, to supposedly be set
up > > for the adhesiolysis. I have had more pain today. The little bit of
stool > I
> > do pass, is small, painful, and it gets worse.Even to pass gas. I don't
> want
> > to end up with an ostomy. Did you ever have a n.g. tube? Are they really
> > painful to have inserted, or uncomfortable?
> > How would you feel if a Dr. or nurse practitioner said that to you? What
> > would you do?
> > Millie

>> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: <>
> > To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS"
> > <>
> > Sent: Saturday, February 24, 2001 1:55 PM
> > Subject: Re:Robin
> >
> > > Hi Robin
> > >
> > > I am new here too.I had 2 c-sections in 1988 and one in 1990 Ihad
> my
> > gal
> > > bladder removed during my second pregancy. I had my tubes tied in 1991
> > then
> > > in 1992 I had my right ovaries removed becauseof cysts then in 1994 I
> had
> > a
> > > complete hystrectomy and I had lap in may of 2000 for my adhesions on
my > > > instestines and small bowel then in August of 2000 dr wilson opened me
> up
> > > along my c-section cut to try to give me some releif but here I am
again > > 31
> > > years old I can not eat and the pain is unbearable my insurance has
> > changed
> > > and now I am dealing with someone who knows less than I do about
> adhesions
> > I
> > > have to deal without any pain releif and I cry almost contsantly when
it > > gets
> > > real bad I go to the er and the head dr there knows how it feels
because > > his
> > > grandmother suffered for years with adhesions. So hang in there and
> don't
> > > give up. I hang on to a thread of hope that someone will help me.
Tired > > and
> > > feeling useless in Tenn. I wish you luck and will keep you close to
> heart
> > in
> > > my prayers.
> > >
> > > wishing you the best
> > >
> > > Dawn
> > >
> > > to the unsubscribe form at > >

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