Re: Appearances Can Be Helen

From: Rhonda R. White (samuels1@us.net)
Sun Dec 5 15:05:42 1999


Helen, can you tell me where to find the articles?

Tina Shelby wrote:

> Rhonda,
>
> Helen Dyna had a web site with articles about just this subject, "You don't
> look sick". It was a very good article. I lost my hard drive so I can't give
> it to you. Maybe she will remember and find it for you.
>
> Tina
>
> At 12:20 PM 12/3/99 -0600, you wrote:
> >Yesterday someone made the comment to me that because I don't look sick,
> >I will have a hard time convincing a doctor that I'm truly in pain and
> >need to have my adhesions dealt with. I do take the time some days to
> >put on make-up because it makes me feel better. I also dress relatively
> >well. I work in a conservative law firm so I can't wear jeans to work.
> >I've been overweight for years so I'm not exactly skin & bones.
> >
> >The person that said this to me said that she can't even tell when I'm
> >in pain. I work very hard to make myself look presentable and I have
> >the "stiff upper lip" mentality so I'm not one to allow casual/business
> >acquaintances to know I'm feeling. Am I to be penalized by the doctors
> >just because I don't look like I'm at death's door and because my manner
> >is almost always sunny? I was raised to never allow my personal feelings
> >to show to anyone other than immediate family.
> >
> >Ordinarily someone else's opinion wouldn't concern me but this person is
> >usually right on the money when it comes to things of this nature. It
> >really bothers me that I'm being judged on this basis.
> >
>


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