HELP! Advice needed!

From: Julie Tom (
Fri Nov 5 15:01:00 2004

I just went to a new doctor today (a Pelvic Pain specialist)... and I am feeling really uneasy about the whole experience.

First of all... she seemed more concerned about my being overweight than my being in severe pain and barely able to walk into her office! One of the first things she said to me was, "We need to work on getting your weight down". My response to that was "YES! Please! I want to be able to go jogging again! Make the pain go away!"

Secondly... she told me that the reason I am in pain right now is because my brain has hard-wired itself into feeling pain all the time (eventhough I told her that this pain I have now is more severe and recent, and that I had lysis of adhesions last year because I was bedridden with pain... and that the surgery helped the pain for about 8 months or so... but, something seems wrong because it hurts badly right now.)... SO, she sent me home with some samples of "Cymbalta", an antidepressant similar to Effexor (which a lot of people have a hard time getting off of because it makes them violently ill).

What worries me is... she never really listened to anything I was saying, she was just waiting for her chance to make a little speech at me... and, she said that she wants to take me off of narcotics all together and deal with the problem on a "mental level". I AM SICK AND TIRED OF BEING TREATED LIKE THIS IS ALL IN MY HEAD!!!!!!

When I tried to explain about how horrible my adhesions were last year, how bound up my intestines and other organs where, and that I am afriad of getting a bowel obstuction... she said "We can also all worry about the world spinning off of its axis, but that isn't going to happen. You just shouldn't worry about things that aren't an actual problem." But... but... but... It IS an actual problem for me! And, then she told me that I need to take fiber pills every day... eventhough I told her that fiber makes my pain MUCH worse.

I don't know what to do... can someone PLEASE give me some advice?? Should I just try out what she wants to do? Has anyone else had this, or a similar experience? Do the antidepressants work for pain, or is this her way of being dismissive about my pain?

I have been dealing with cronic, often acute, pain and doctors who are dissmissive for WAY too long... I was lucky enough to be diagnosed with Adhesions last year... and then I moved to another state... and I really don't want to take four steps back and aggrevate my condition further! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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