I just have to say I'm with you on this one! The most cold hearted doctors I've seen just happened to be female, and perhaps it was by chance, but the only extremely painful pelvic exam I ever had was done by a female. Maybe the only way they can deal with other people's pain and suffering is to not allow themselves to have any feelings.... Thank God not all Drs are ike that!
At Tue, 27 Nov 2001, Hchalm@aol.com wrote:
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>Women Doc's, no, there are some that are no more understanding than a man.
>Mine was a woman who did the hysterectomy on me, and I know this GYN knew of
>adhesions, but would not mention the word to me. She treated me as I was a
>baby, that I couldn't handle the pain of a hysterectomy. Told me to take two
>advil and deal with pain and if that didn't help take two more. I swear she
>snickered everytime a test came back negative. I know these GYN"s know it's
>adhesions, I know it, and they just sit there and look you right in the face
>and tell you that the tests show that there is absolutely nothing wrong with
>you. I would call her office crying hysterically, telling her nurse that I
>couldn't stand the pain and she wouldn't even call me back until late that
>night and just say well come in tomorrow and we'll have another look; she
>wouldn't even offer me anything for pain until I would hand the phone to my
>husband and he would say, there better not be anything wrong with her, I'm
>telling you, there better not be anything wrong or you are going to pay, and
>then she would say, well does she need anything for pain? This was only two
>weeks after my hysterectomy and she was already denying me pain medication.
>I called my old GYN who was a male who delivered my children and told him
>what I was experiencing and he said I will not see you as you are under her
>care, but I will help you with the pain. Come to my office and I'll have a
>script at the front desk for pain medication, but I won't see you. He did
>help me, he had compassion (I hadn't seen the man in 10 years, but he wrote
>me a prescription as he couldn't stand the thought of me suffering). So I
>don't think it matters if it's a male or a female, it depends on if they have
>compassion or not. He did later agree to see me, but he also never mentioned
>the word adhesions. When I finally got my medicals from him, his first note
>in my file was probable cause adhesions. Gosh, why such a secret? It would
>have caused me so much less suffering to know the possibility of what I had
>that was tearing my insides apart. I thought I was crazy, insane, thought it
>was in my head, thought I was a baby, that perhaps all hysterectomy patients
>feel this kind of pain and I just couldn't handle it. Ha, what a joke, oh
>yes, thousands of stitches being pulled on by massive adhesions, nah, no
>pain; bowel hanging off my abdominal wall, nah, no pain. Let me see, women
>doc's, what could we do to make them feel that kind of pain, hmmmm good
>question. I'm not even going to go there.
>
>Love,
>
>Hell-yun
-- csheedy