-- Karla
>----- Original Message ----- From: "marianne bolding" <ojowojo@yahoo.com> To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS" <adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com> Sent: Monday, August 13, 2001 9:55 AM Subject: Re: My job
> Jean, Hi. I hope you're getting around o.k. today. > I had forgotten about unemployment until you mentioned > it...thanks. > What's wrong is before diagnosis and surgical > procedures...I was bed sick alot...nausea, fainting, > vomiting, and no bowel movements. I "couldn't" work. > I took two weeks off before surgery...had drs. > documentations, filled out paperwork at the main > office for a 30-day leave-that was approved-to have > surgery. (None the less, the principal would call me > all the time..."Am I ready to go back yet?" even > before my 30-day was up). It was stressing me out > that noone was ever "How R U". But, that's > biz...everything they threw at me...I followed. After > I went back to work...I was having problems with the > diaphragm making me dizzy, I was belching these horid > sounds all the time in front of everyone (I had no > control)...the drs. never wanted to test me for > anything quick enough. The surgery was a battle to > get, and the dang GI to find out why I was still so > sick after surgery. I believe if my doc would have > given me the GI when I asked...they would have > diagnosed that hernia sooner and got me on meds to > control the symptoms....and my return to work would > have been successful. (Though, I still have no > control over the belching--water, applesauce, doesn't > matter what I eat). Last night at 3:30am I puked my > guts out. My chest felt like it would explode. I am > literally exhausted. > I don't know what the school will offer me...I have to > wait for HR to call me and see. However, I feel that > this should be illegal to discriminate against me due > to medical reasons. I'm going to fight them if the > offer they make is unacceptable. My father-in-law is > a lawyer and I am going to talk to him about it. I > think the only way I could have kept my job was to > have returned to work and dealt with the regurgitation > in front of others, the belching (overcome the > humility), and not be embarrassed I have to shit 5-6 > times a day all the way up to noon...or not shit at > all and be at my desk cramping up with the hot pad, > let them see I was un-productive due to pain...but, > they would've still used this same excuse to let me > go. > I'm so tired of being blamed that I'm not doing my > best to get better. Tell me I don't come onto this > site and talk about nutrition and exercise up my ass. > It's all I do and think about...I'm sick of drinking > aloe vera juice, and all the dang vitamins, and > watching every little thing I eat, walking and > metamucil every day....but, I do it. I don't need a > soul telling me I "haven't" tried...I called the main > office to see about a 2-day leave extension and they > said it was up to the principal. I called the > principal and he said he had to check with the guy I > had just talked to. Told him I had and what he > said...and the principal completely fakes me out, fake > "get better"...he knew he was going to can me then and > he didn't even have the nerve to do it over the phone. > They know I need the health insurance, too. It's > like a slap in the face after two years with the > school....the extra hours and projects, taking work > home. I need to find out know if they eliminated the > asst. position at other high schools....if they > did...I'll believe...if not, I'm fighting them...I > want to be placed at a completely new school in an > office position that offers medical. I had recieved a > raise for re-classification of the asst. position > while I was on leave...so how could it have been > eliminated throughout all TUSD schools. I think it > was just my school...and just me. I need to find out > though...then, I'll know how to pursue it. I'm so > hurt and humiliated. Cobra is too expensive...and my > hubbys insurance is an extra $300 a month for > me...that's way too much. It's like we have to get > divorced so I can apply for low-income health services > and that isn't going to happen. We make too much > money---but, yet...not enough. You know that drill. > Oh, I'll survive...but, what will it take from me and > how sick is this whole thing going to make me trying > to deal with all the crap that I'll know have to deal > with. That'll be a tough one for Miss. > Sensitivity...just staying tough and strong. I feel > like a failure..facing my hubby, and the family that > didn't understand my sickness to begin with, and other > friends I've worked with, my neighbors...everybody. > I tell myself "Who cares what other people > think"...and I realize that "I care". > You've always been the > best to me, Jean...all your words of wisdom and all > the personal e-mails talking about your life has given > me such insight to you as a person. The insecurities > and adversities of your childhood and your disease > that crippled you as a child, your real and in-law > parents and their abuse, your husbands death. You > inspire me with what you've done with your > life...where you've been and where you are now...you > never gave up...and you've made yourself a success > with your home-based business (they should put you on > Oprah) :-) And mostly...that through it all you kept > your laughter and shared it with others and gave of > yourself to so many people. You're a fighter and I > admire that in you. I wish I could hug you, cry on > your shoulder, as I cry know, and hear you tell me > that I can make it...because I feel so weak inside and > it's hard to find the strength to move forward. > You've been a blessing in my life my fellow > Aerian...even through this computer. Love, Marianne > > --- Jean Long <creative@enter.net> wrote: > > Marianne, > > Can't you collect unemployment or other > > compensation? > > I am sure they have to give you that, even people > > who get fired for doing something wrong get > > unemployment. > > Don't they have to give some kind of a notice or > > severance pay or something? > > Don't they give you the option to keep the insurance > > going yourself? > > Doesn't your husband have health insurance where he > > works, if so get put on his? > > I am on my husband's insurance. > > > > Do you think maybe they have another position they > > would let you apply for? > > > > I know it is hard to deal with all these issues on > > top of pain, believe me my life has been one > > disaster after another. > > Hang in there and when you calm down you can better > > think of something to do. You naturally must get > > over the initial shock first. > > You can't bring back what you lost but if you calm > > down and concentrate you may be able to come up with > > a solution or alternative. You have the advantage of > > still being young, educated and pretty......places > > want that. There are alot more places to work at and > > maybe even better than what you had, which shouldn't > > be hard from what I have heard from you. > > > > Look at me..... who wants a 52 year old, sickly, > > uneducated old lady (LOL)! > > JEAN > > > > "A Friend is someone who knows all about you and > > still loves you!!!" > >
>> > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: "marianne bolding" <ojowojo@yahoo.com> > > To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS" > > <adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com> > > Sent: Saturday, August 11, 2001 4:04 PM > > Subject: My job > > > > I guess I need to deal with an issue that has come > > up...I received a letter in the mail stating..."Due > > to > > the recent budget cuts at TUSD (TUcson Unified > > School > > District) your position as a High School Finance > > Office Asst. has been eliminated. The Human > > Resources > > Dept. will be contacting you shortly to discuss the > > implications of your job being eliminated." signed > > my > > principal at the high school...my hands are shaking > > like a leaf. I don't even want to tell my > > husband...and there goes my insurance...couldn't > > even > > tell me to my face at work about this...sent it in a > > letter. Dreaded ARD...thanks for ruining my life. > > I'm a mess now. Just when I try to think > > positive...I > > always end up with some more bad news. It never > > ends...first adhesions, then a hernia, now I've lost > > my job and insurance...and almost all hope. LIFE > > SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Marianne > > > > Send instant messages & get email alerts with Yahoo! > > Messenger. > > > > http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm > > > > http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm > > Send instant messages & get email alerts with Yahoo! Messenger. >