At Fri, 10 Aug 2001, marianne bolding wrote:
>
>I have your surgery in my date book and will be sure
>to wish you luck before you go in, Robin!! Hope this
>is "the one"! Love, Marianne
>--- Robin <rmasse2333@aol.com> wrote:
>> I think that would be a great idea! I was just there
>> the end of June &
>> the 6th of July. I am getting ready for surgery,
>> (Aug 15) so it will be
>> a while until I can go again, but will let you know
>> when I am planning a
>> trip.
>> love
>> robin
>>
>> t Fri, 10 Aug 2001, marianne bolding wrote:
>> >
>> >Whenever you come up to visit...you should let me
>> >know...You, Collette, and I can have an ice cream
>> >party :-) Marianne
>> >--- Robin <rmasse2333@aol.com> wrote:
>> >> Dear Marianne
>> >> Most of my family live in AZ. I have a sister
>> who
>> >> has a motel in Ajo.
>> >> My brother lives in Chandler. My parents live in
>> >> PHX around 43 Ave. Our
>> >> daughter lives in El Mirage. I have 2 other
>> >> sisters, one lives in New
>> >> Mexico (about 4 hrs away) & the other lives in
>> GA.
>> >> After my barrium
>> >> test, I took mineral oil (YUCK!!!!) Hope you are
>> >> doing better today.
>> >> love
>> >> robin
>> >>
>> >> At Wed, 8 Aug 2001, marianne bolding wrote:
>> >> >
>> >> >Robin, Hi. I didn't think (after all the water I
>> >> >drank) that I'd get constipated from
>> >> it...especially
>> >> >after white diarrhea yesterday...but, today...It
>> is
>> >> >completely lodged. I might tear myself trying
>> to
>> >> push
>> >> >so hard...which also hurts the hernia. Coffee
>> >> didn't
>> >> >work, acidophilus didn't work, now I'm trying
>> >> >metamucil...I just hate stool softners with a
>> >> passion.
>> >> > I'm hoping cause I sure hate this feeling. I'm
>> >> glad
>> >> >you're family stands behind you when you need
>> them.
>> >> >It "should" be that way. My
>> >> >husband isn't so much insensitive as he is
>> >> unknowing,
>> >> >unaware, and too tired to learn. It hits 105
>> here
>> >> and
>> >> >he works outside all day. I can imagine it is
>> >> >draining...and then to have me asking him to
>> read
>> >> >stuff and listen to me isn't as easy as I think
>> it
>> >> >should be. We're all different, I guess. I
>> could
>> >> do
>> >> >it...but, he isn't me...(thank God sometimes for
>> >> that,
>> >> >too!) All I can do is pray he will gain
>> >> understanding
>> >> >somehow. My hubbys in-laws are like that, too.
>> >> They
>> >> >too, need prayers as they have no clue
>> sometimes!!!
>> >> >LOL It's so hard to make a marriage work and
>> family
>> >> >interference just makes it tougher. I try to
>> >> distance
>> >> >myself from getting involved. The hubbys have
>> got
>> >> to
>> >> >get physically tired of it one day and maybe
>> then
>> >> >they'll stand up for themselves. (or so someone
>> >> told
>> >> >me) LOL Take care of your self, Robin and thank
>> >> you.
>> >> >Love, Marianne---P.S. where in AZ does your
>> folks
>> >> >live? I'm in Tucson. I'll say hi for you :-)
>> >> >--- Robin <rmasse2333@aol.com> wrote:
>> >> >> Dear Marianne
>> >> >> I have had the barrium test done, it isn't
>> fun.
>> >> I
>> >> >> had to take stuff
>> >> >> afterwards to flush the barrium out of my
>> system,
>> >> >> which was awful! I am
>> >> >> lucky that my husband & kids are supportive,
>> but
>> >> his
>> >> >> family lives in the
>> >> >> same town & can't be bothered to help him out,
>> >> >> although they like to
>> >> >> have his help with everything. I finally told
>> >> his
>> >> >> mom I was having
>> >> >> surgery, she is going to cook for them while I
>> am
>> >> in
>> >> >> the hospital. I
>> >> >> told her that while I am in the hospital and
>> >> >> recouping, nothing would be
>> >> >> different around here, he has to work all day
>> &
>> >> then
>> >> >> come home & cook &
>> >> >> clean, but she doesn't get it. I just wish
>> they
>> >> >> would help him or
>> >> >> atleast stop asking him for help. My parents
>> are
>> >> >> also supportive, but
>> >> >> they live in AZ, so they arent able to help
>> much.
>> >> I
>> >> >> hope things will
>> >> >> get easier for you & you can find some
>> support.
>> >> >> love
>> >> >> robin
>> >> >>
>> >> >> Tue, 7 Aug 2001, marianne bolding wrote:
>> >> >> >
>> >> >> >Well, I had an upper GI done yesterday. Talk
>> >> about
>> >> >> >nasty barrium stuff...bluck. Completely
>> >> dehydrated
>> >> >> my
>> >> >> >body...and today I have a stomach ache along
>> >> with
>> >> >> >"pure" white diarrhea. I assume this is the
>> >> >> barrium
>> >> >> >trying to get out of my symptom. Anyone been
>> >> >> there?
>> >> >> >I'm going to reach out for a moment
>> here...Ever
>> >> >> since
>> >> >> >diagnosis and surgeory I seem to be declining
>> >> into
>> >> >> a
>> >> >> >serious mode of depression. Like "Post
>> surgical
>> >> >> >trauma/stress" or something. I don't
>> know...it
>> >> >> just
>> >> >> >seems that I've had to change everything in
>> my
>> >> >> life.
>> >> >> >The way I eat, how I exert myself, eating or
>> >> just
>> >> >> >being in public due to gas, friends you
>> thought
>> >> >> were
>> >> >> >friends---but they left you standing alone
>> when
>> >> you
>> >> >> >needed support (family, too), the clothes I
>> wear
>> >> >> >(excessive bloating), my job and how they
>> >> handled
>> >> >> the
>> >> >> >whole situation with me being out of work
>> >> (moving
>> >> >> my
>> >> >> >office while I was out, losing my personal
>> >> pictures
>> >> >> >and properties, threatening to fire me if I
>> >> didn't
>> >> >> >recupe quick enough for them-even with
>> doctors
>> >> >> >documents), my relationship-I was telling my
>> >> >> husband
>> >> >> >last night I need more help and support
>> mentally
>> >> >> and
>> >> >> >physically...he said "Huh?" (He was watching
>> a
>> >> >> >baseball game)...repeated myself and he said,
>> >> >> "It'll
>> >> >> >get better."...then started yelling at the
>> ump
>> >> on
>> >> >> t.v.
>> >> >> > He didn't get I needed to talk. When I told
>> >> him I
>> >> >> >needed it desperately...he said "I'm just so
>> >> >> tired."
>> >> >> >(He's always tired..or busy...or just
>> selfish).
>> >> I
>>
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