Karla...I understand what you mean by this now...very
well....Thankyou for not taking my pain any less than
yours...this is a wonderful attitude that you
have...you rub off on me...may God Bless you for this
attitude and always keep you ever so safe. I am so
sorry that I didn't understand what you meant...I do
know...and I ever cherish your words and your
acceptance to this board...and into your
lives....without you guys...my mental capacity would
have caused me to give up...literally. I didn't even
want to try anymore...I also read your story on the
quilt last night...You beautiful woman you....Love,
Marianne
--- mm.hammond@att.net wrote:
> Marianne, > > I am so sorry you took offense to my posting. It > was > not meant to hurt feelings. All I was trying to > make > you see is that everyone is equal on this > list...just > because someone has suffered longer. I have been > thru a > lot...major pain...major problems...but I don't want > to > be dealt with any differently than those who maybe > have > only had one or two surgeries...or whom some people > might perceive as having less pain. It is all in > perceptions and to me everyone's pain is equal. I > do > know there are different levels...I just don't want > to > think that you mean less to this list because you > haven't suffered as much or been in as much pain. > > Once again, I am sorry I didn't word myself better. > I > wasn't trying to chew you out...just wanted you to > know > that in my eyes you and your pain are equal to > everyone > elses. > > Karla > > It was me...and I disagree with you...there are > > different levels of problems and some are worse > than > > others. The adhesion pain in one area of the body > may > > not be as severe as in another area. If someone > has > > gone through this 30 times and someone else > > once...what they're going through had to be at a > > different level. There is different levels of > pain. > > IE: if someone is in a wheelchair they're ability > to > > walk is more of a challenge than my ability to > walk. > > It isn't used in the term to make someone feel any > > less than the other. If someone spent 20 years > > suffering for a diagnosis of adhesions, it is > worse > > than spending a year. It is more of a mental > > challenge...why would you be offended, if the > intended > > person who receives it is not offended? There > "ARE" > > people who suffer worse than I on this board. If > you > > are hungry...it is not the same as someone who is > > starving. Yes, I had a spontaneous adhesion, yes, > it > > was painful, yes I still suffer problems...is it > the > > same as suffering for the past 20 years...no...I > just > > don't think so. Does it mean I don't belong > > here...no...who's to say that down the line.... > > Let's everyone stop picking little details out of > > these wonderful e-mails we send to each > other...noone > > is out to hurt anyone or out to make anyone feel > less. > > We are all just people dealing the cards we were > > dealt. Another reason why I probably use this > term > > alot is due to the fact I spend so much time > talking > > about my problems...it was/is my way of letting > the > > intended recipient know that I am not naive to > their > > pain and don't mean to be selfish. Was there not > a > > better way for you to word your "Give me a > break!!!" > > attitude. Your e-mail really hurts my feelings. > > > --- mm.hammond@att.net wrote: > > > I have read something on this list that has > really > > > disturbed me. It was not a one time thing...but > > > > something that I have heard repeatedly of late > and > > > it > > > really bothers me to read it. What is it you > ask? > > > People keep saying...."I know your problems are > much > > > > > > worse than mine" or "Your adhesions are worse > than > > > my > > > adhesions." Give me a break!!!! No one on this > > > list > > > should feel any less than the next person. Our > > > problems > > > are all equal here! Everyone needs the love and > > > support > > > just as badly and to the same degree as the next > > > > person. Sure, there are some days when someone > just > > > > > > might need more hugs than I do....but it all > works > > > out > > > in the end. Do not consider your illness to be > less > > > > > > problematic then the next person's. You are > working > > > on > > > a level playing field in this group and we want > to > > > keep > > > it that way. > > > > > > Love, > > > Karla > > > > > > To remove yourself from the > adhesions@adhesions.org > > > mailing list please go > > > to the unsubscribe form at > > > http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm > > > > Get personalized email addresses from Yahoo! Mail > > > > To remove yourself from the > adhesions@adhesions.org mailing list please go > > to the unsubscribe form at > http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm > > http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm