I am so sorry you took offense to my posting. It was not meant to hurt feelings. All I was trying to make you see is that everyone is equal on this list...just because someone has suffered longer. I have been thru a lot...major pain...major problems...but I don't want to be dealt with any differently than those who maybe have only had one or two surgeries...or whom some people might perceive as having less pain. It is all in perceptions and to me everyone's pain is equal. I do know there are different levels...I just don't want to think that you mean less to this list because you haven't suffered as much or been in as much pain.
Once again, I am sorry I didn't word myself better. I wasn't trying to chew you out...just wanted you to know that in my eyes you and your pain are equal to everyone elses.
Karla
> It was me...and I disagree with you...there are
> different levels of problems and some are worse than
> others. The adhesion pain in one area of the body may
> not be as severe as in another area. If someone has
> gone through this 30 times and someone else
> once...what they're going through had to be at a
> different level. There is different levels of pain.
> IE: if someone is in a wheelchair they're ability to
> walk is more of a challenge than my ability to walk.
> It isn't used in the term to make someone feel any
> less than the other. If someone spent 20 years
> suffering for a diagnosis of adhesions, it is worse
> than spending a year. It is more of a mental
> challenge...why would you be offended, if the intended
> person who receives it is not offended? There "ARE"
> people who suffer worse than I on this board. If you
> are hungry...it is not the same as someone who is
> starving. Yes, I had a spontaneous adhesion, yes, it
> was painful, yes I still suffer problems...is it the
> same as suffering for the past 20 years...no...I just
> don't think so. Does it mean I don't belong
> here...no...who's to say that down the line....
> Let's everyone stop picking little details out of
> these wonderful e-mails we send to each other...noone
> is out to hurt anyone or out to make anyone feel less.
> We are all just people dealing the cards we were
> dealt. Another reason why I probably use this term
> alot is due to the fact I spend so much time talking
> about my problems...it was/is my way of letting the
> intended recipient know that I am not naive to their
> pain and don't mean to be selfish. Was there not a
> better way for you to word your "Give me a break!!!"
> attitude. Your e-mail really hurts my feelings.
> --- mm.hammond@att.net wrote:
> > I have read something on this list that has really
> > disturbed me. It was not a one time thing...but
> > something that I have heard repeatedly of late and
> > it
> > really bothers me to read it. What is it you ask?
> > People keep saying...."I know your problems are much
> >
> > worse than mine" or "Your adhesions are worse than
> > my
> > adhesions." Give me a break!!!! No one on this
> > list
> > should feel any less than the next person. Our
> > problems
> > are all equal here! Everyone needs the love and
> > support
> > just as badly and to the same degree as the next
> > person. Sure, there are some days when someone just
> >
> > might need more hugs than I do....but it all works
> > out
> > in the end. Do not consider your illness to be less
> >
> > problematic then the next person's. You are working
> > on
> > a level playing field in this group and we want to
> > keep
> > it that way.
> >
> > Love,
> > Karla
> >
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