I empathize with your feeling of isolation. It's true that one's close support network sometimes gets fatigued, there's nothing much that you or they can do but struggle on. DO NOT think you are complaining, you are simply reporting reality. If you get emotional & start crying, I know that the listener often tunes out, but take a deep breath & admit your feelings, but point out that that does not make your reports untrue.
I hope your test went well.
Please find a surgeon who feels surgery will help you & does not think that all the pain is not a good reason for surgery. It is a good reason for surgery.
Kay in WI
>----- Original Message -----
From: "toni welsh" <twelsh1@hotmail.com>
To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS" <adhesions@forum.obgyn.net>
Sent: Tuesday, June 06, 2000 9:19 PM
Subject: losing my family support
> I have not been on here very much, and feel like I need someone. My
> husband seems to have lost alot of feeling for the pain I have had, and
> I am not used to this. He has always been here for me, but after losing
> his dad, things have been harder.
>
> I have been in alot of pain since Sunday, and do not know what brought
> this on. I am supposed to go for a barium enema on Thursday, and I
> cannot get the nerve to go. I am terrified of this test, and I know I
> need to have it done. I feel like I am fighting this alone again, seems
> the gyn and my husband are tired of my complaining, so I stopped saying
> anything, but there are so many days I cannot take no more. I told my
> husband at one point a few days ago, there is so many kinds of pain
> going on right now, it feels like aliens are in there just ripping me
> apart.
>
> The Gi dr said he want me to have these tests done to see if there is a
> blockage or narrowing of the bowel, then he said you may need surgery,
> but having surgery just for all the pain COULD make things worse. I am
> sorry this has been so long, I just feel kind of alone the last few
> days. I guess it has been a long road of listening to me complain, but
> I just do not feel good. Just to be able to enjoy life again. I am
> going to get through this. I will talk to you all later.
>
> Love to all,
> Toni
>