Ashley,
I am so sorry you have suffered like this. It sounds like you just got the wrong doctor from the start. I am glad you went to another doctor and if he advises a lap you should tell him you cannot get opened up right now due to your situation with your child. If he removes the adhesions through the lap it will give you relief and you should be able to function better and not need anything more than a Tylenol! I hope you can start to feel better. I have been lucky because I have had an understanding doctor from the beginning he listens and he helps. I hope your child can get the help he or she needs for their illness. Hang on. It will get better. Tell your husband he gets an A+ for giving you such wonderful support.
Marilyn in PA