Re: My Side of the Story (Sally)

From: Sally Grigg (LostCst@mcn.org)
Tue Jul 1 13:03:52 2003


Dear Elaine, I'm sorry I haven't written you sooner, It's Tuesday already and time for your appointment. I hope all goes well. I actually found that going to a counselor was an asset. But of course, as with everything, it has to be a good counselor. She was able to help me find a better local doctor and she stood up for me and wrote long letters telling the local medical community that the pain was in my abdomen and not in my head. She stated with great fervor that I did not need anti-depressants, I needed a doctor to listen to me. So good luck, Hugs, Sally Grigg

At Sun, 29 Jun 2003, Elaine wrote: >
>Sally, thank you for your response. I'm lucky that my gynecologist is
>kind and considerate, but the last time I saw him my husband and I both
>felt he was not interested in finding the cause or felt strongly that it
>wasn't his area (i.e. not gynecology related). I was certain when I
>explained what I felt, he'd know exactly what was going on. Considering
>he did the hysterectomy (no scar tissue) and afterwards when I had bowel
>problems he kept saying IBS. Then, when he removed the cyst (just four
>months later), he found the adhesions attaching my small intestines to
>the omentum - in my mind that validated the pain and problems I had. I
>guess for the medical community though, or at least this gynecologist,
>it wasn't convincing?? I know he is completely sick of me and honestly
>I'm sick of me ha!, so I would rather just go to a new gyn. My problem
>is, no other GYN in the clinic will see me. A nurse told me that was
>because those in the clinic won't handle other gyn's patients unless
>that doctor is on leave or has left. I'm sort of in a rock and a hard
>place I guess. I respect my doctor, he seems like a great person.
>However, somehow I've become the "chronic" patient with all this. He
>didn't even do an exam on the last two visits. We discussed my pain and
>he suggested anti-depressants. Which, of course, I said no to. I'm
>frustrated, my pain is irritating at times and excruciating at others,
>my feelings are hurt - but I'm not depressed. If anything, I'm more
>determined than ever to find the cause.
>
>I went to our insurance and tried to change my regular clinic where a
>nurse practioner said she'd put in for the civilian gyn referral.
>However, she never did. I asked them to change my clinic so I could
>hopefully see a real doctor since I never seem to see anyone but
>physicians assistants or nurse practioners. The insurance lady said my
>clinic was the best they had and I'd have worse luck with the others.
>She did secure me an appointment with a doctor for this coming Tuesday.
>I've never been scared to go to a doctor before, but I'm finding I'm
>dreading this so badly I'm considering cancelling the appointment :(.
>Since April, I've been to this clinic twice. The first time they
>thought I had a bowel obstruction, but the xrays said no. Instead of
>getting a referral for a GYN, I was sent to the GI doctor. This of
>course will result in the IBS diagnosis that I refuse to accept. Sure,
>people have this, but it usually presents (from what I've read) in your
>late teens, early twenties. I never had this constant ache, more pain
>when active, constipation, horrible cramps and diarrhea problem until
>these surgeries.
>
>At any rate, I've printed two articles out from OBGYN.NET that I plan to
>highlight a few things from and speak to this doctor about.
>
>http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/women/articles/bradley/banter_0708
>
>http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/women/articles/bradley/banter_0615
>
>One is about ovarian cysts, the other about adhesions. I keep reading
>that cystectomy is most likely to cause adhesions and most times they
>will not show up on ultrasound or other imaging tests.
>
>My main objective is to get someone to help me find the cause. On one
>x-ray it said:
>Incidentally noted is incomplete fusion of the posterior elements at S1.
>
>I have read that problems with the sacrum can present as pelvic pain. I
>have pelvic and low back pain, but it's at the same time so I have
>always assumed it was like the cyst - makes your back hurt, not your
>back making your abdomen hurt.
>
>I'm fully willing to explore whether it is scar tissue, a back problem
>or some other odd thing that hasn't been considered. I just NEED a
>doctor who is willing to help me find the cause. I'm even willing to go
>have a mental evaluation if needed in order for someone to believe me.
>There was a time several months ago I doubted my sanity, but I've spent
>so much time keeping track of this pain, making SURE my emotions (when
>I'm angry, upset or sad) do not make it worse. I feel our minds do play
>a large role in our well-being and I wanted to ensure I explored all
>avenues without wasting any more doctors' time. I feel I've done that
>and I'm confident something is wrong. Not life threatening thankfully
>(or I'd already be dead ha ha!), but enough to impact my quality of
>life.
>
>Goodness,I've just rambled, but thank you so much for your understanding
>and your willingness to listen. I'm greatful to have a place to discuss
>my feelings and worries. I feel I've burdened my friends and family so
>much so that most everyone dreads to talk to me these days :(. You
>ladies are the best!!
>
>At Sun, 29 Jun 2003, Sally Grigg wrote:
>>
>>Dear Elaine, I sympathize greatly with you. When I had appendicitis last
>>fall, all of our local doctors left on Holiday around Thanksgiving and a
>>surgeon who had been a military doctor all of his life became "my
>>doctor" for two weeks. God help us all. He told me adhesions were "not
>>a problem" and
>>no one went to Germany for adhesion operations as it was not necessary
>>(I had gone because I was dying and it was one of my best decisons). He
>>also told me
>>that adhesions did not hurt, caused no harm, and my basic problem was
>>that
>>I was drug addict. While he was telling me this, he had a scapel in his
>>hand
>>and proceeded to "open up" my incisions so they could drain more. He
>>cut so deep
>>that my intestines healed into my incision scars. He gave me no
>>medication for
>>pain when he cut into me at that time because he said it did not hurt. I
>>had to
>>bit down on a wad of sheet to keep from screaming. All in all this man
>>was a crocodile and if he is representative of the type of doctor you
>>have to deal
>>with regularly, you need all the support we can give you.
>>
>>Perhaps you could print out some of the papers that Helen Dynda has
>>emailed the
>>IAS Board. There are many studies that show adhesions hurt you, cause
>>pain, etc. You could also print out studies showing that medications
>>given to you for pain do not turn you into a drug addict. There is much
>>to be gained by researching on this site and others. Learn as much as
>>you can and go to the doctors armed with hand-outs. It may not help as
>>they seem pretty set in their ways, but maybe there is one somewhere who
>>will listen. Good luck, Sally Grigg
>>


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