Glad to see you posting. The best thing I have found for hot flashes & other symptoms of menopause are soy based estrogen's. They are call phytoestrogen's & will not wreak havoc with your body as they are natural. I was going through the same thing since I cannot take chemical estrogen's as they trigger tumors to grow in my breasts which are a precancerous form of the disease. Go to any health food store & they will gladly help you figure out what is best for you.
Hugs-prayers & pain free moments to you!!!!!!!!!!
Patti Grey Wolf