Re: Karla, Robin & Millie
From: debsiwministry@carolina.rr.com ("debsiwministry@carolina.rr.com")
Fri May 10 15:15:16 2002
We must be very careful not to try to diagnose as we arenot physicians. With
adhesions we may time after time not have a emergency situation but then
another time be in very grave danger. I have been there..I have almost died.
Each time one of us gets ill in the manner that Millie has it leaves us
wondering and having fear that we may be headed for another emergency
surgery. Millie knows and feels that she can get guidance here. I am new
here and I can say that your post including the Scranton thing??? may me
wonder if I was in the wrong place. Just some thoughts no intended harm. Deb
-------Original Message-------
From: adhesions@adhesions.org
Date: Friday, May 10, 2002 15:04:39
To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS
Subject: Karla, Robin & Millie
Karla,
Millie didn't intend her reply to be directed your way, it was meant for me
so you have no need to feel bad or apologize.
--
Robin,
I have helped Millie many times in the past and also just this past week
answered allot of questions she asked me via email.
If I didn't care or wasn't offering support I wouldn't have answered her
emails or questions for her.
I was always there for her since she has been on the board although it was
mostly via email so people may not be aware of it.
Just because I don't post often anymore doesn't mean I never help or offer
support to people but it can also be done via email.
My intentions were not to insult her, just try to calm her down again.
I didn't mean that I don't believe she has problems and pain or deserve
support any less than anyone else.
I am sure she does have pain and problems like we all have or we wouldn't be
here.
I merely pointed out that she most likely doesn't have an "emergency"
situation by reminding her of how upset she has gotten herself in the past
for the same things.
The tests, pains, problems, questions and answers and are not new to her.
In fact she has helped other people in the past by answering these questions
for them so I thought she understood things much better now.
I can understand you thinking I was too harsh however I know from before
that she won't calm down as long as she keeps repeating the same questions
and getting the same answers over and over again for weeks or months.
I didn't mean that the same "pain and problems" don't repeat themselves over
and over and have it's highs and lows.
Yes, we need a compassionate ear more at some times than others.
Apparently I don't have a way with words!
Millie has alot of friends on the board who love and care about her on the
board and I sure didn't mean she shouldn't post anymore or even complain
about her problems. She has been an avid poster and I have not and I am sure
she will still be a big part of the board when she calms down again from my
post.
I should have kept my mouth shut instead of trying to calm her down in the
manner I thought she needed, since apparently I sure didn't succeed in doing
that.
I don't even know why I posted a response since it wasn't directed to me,
therefore none of my business, other than because she is one I periodically
chat with via email and felt a need to try to calm her down again for own
well-being.
If anything I guess I should have just emailed her personally but I'm not
sure that would have made a difference either.
I don't like to see friction or fighting on the board, never intended it to
turn out that way and I definitely won't be a part of any.
Millie & everyone else,
I'm sorry for posting and saying anything and also for disrupting the board.
It was not intended as it was taken.
I promise I will shut my mouth again!
JEAN
-----Original Message-----
From: adhesions@adhesions.org [mailto:adhesions@adhesions.org]On Behalf Of
Karla N
Sent: Friday, May 10, 2002 4:02 AM
To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS
Subject: Re: I'm Leaving the board tonight
Millie,
Please do not leave. We all suffer on here. Pain is an awful thing to live
with yet alone deal with by yourself. You have the love and support of
everyone here. I apologize to you for anything that I possibly might have
said that would have upset you. Having talked with you for so long I felt
that I could convince you not to worry....for your sake. That only makes
your condition worse. I was not telling you this because it was bothering
me. You don't bother me. I just want to be able to give you the advice you
need along with the love and support. Besides....who can I get together
with to tease Sally about that age thing???
Love ya!!!!!! Please know that God is watching over you and blessing your
life as you read this. Take the time to cherish that. Ultimately, he is
the only person that you need. We are just tools to help you see that.
Karla