I raised a step-son with a malignant brain tumor. He had lots of problems as you can imagine. And many times I was in great distress how to help him, so I hope I haven't added to your burden by criticizing you. I'm sure all kinds of thoughts enter your head, and of course children can be lazy, but I stand by my opinion even if its unwelcome to Jo or the rest of the board.
I do regret causing you distress. My step-son fought all the odds and
lived. He now lives on his own in a subsidized apartment in town. Although
he is developmentally disabled he grew up to be strong and as
self-sufficient as possible. He has lots of help though or he could not be
"on his own". You have my best wishes. It's a hard job, and you don't
always know what is best, you can only do your best, which I'm sure you are.
Love and best wishes, Sally