> When considering unemployment remember that you must tell them that you are
> able to go out and work. You cannot tell them that you are sick and
> unable.....otherwise you will be denied.
>> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "marianne bolding" <firstname.lastname@example.org>
> To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS"
> Sent: Monday, August 13, 2001 9:55 AM
> Subject: Re: My job
> > Jean, Hi. I hope you're getting around o.k. today.
> > I had forgotten about unemployment until you mentioned
> > it...thanks.
> > What's wrong is before diagnosis and surgical
> > procedures...I was bed sick alot...nausea, fainting,
> > vomiting, and no bowel movements. I "couldn't" work.
> > I took two weeks off before surgery...had drs.
> > documentations, filled out paperwork at the main
> > office for a 30-day leave-that was approved-to have
> > surgery. (None the less, the principal would call me
> > all the time..."Am I ready to go back yet?" even
> > before my 30-day was up). It was stressing me out
> > that noone was ever "How R U". But, that's
> > biz...everything they threw at me...I followed. After
> > I went back to work...I was having problems with the
> > diaphragm making me dizzy, I was belching these horid
> > sounds all the time in front of everyone (I had no
> > control)...the drs. never wanted to test me for
> > anything quick enough. The surgery was a battle to
> > get, and the dang GI to find out why I was still so
> > sick after surgery. I believe if my doc would have
> > given me the GI when I asked...they would have
> > diagnosed that hernia sooner and got me on meds to
> > control the symptoms....and my return to work would
> > have been successful. (Though, I still have no
> > control over the belching--water, applesauce, doesn't
> > matter what I eat). Last night at 3:30am I puked my
> > guts out. My chest felt like it would explode. I am
> > literally exhausted.
> > I don't know what the school will offer me...I have to
> > wait for HR to call me and see. However, I feel that
> > this should be illegal to discriminate against me due
> > to medical reasons. I'm going to fight them if the
> > offer they make is unacceptable. My father-in-law is
> > a lawyer and I am going to talk to him about it. I
> > think the only way I could have kept my job was to
> > have returned to work and dealt with the regurgitation
> > in front of others, the belching (overcome the
> > humility), and not be embarrassed I have to shit 5-6
> > times a day all the way up to noon...or not shit at
> > all and be at my desk cramping up with the hot pad,
> > let them see I was un-productive due to pain...but,
> > they would've still used this same excuse to let me
> > go.
> > I'm so tired of being blamed that I'm not doing my
> > best to get better. Tell me I don't come onto this
> > site and talk about nutrition and exercise up my ass.
> > It's all I do and think about...I'm sick of drinking
> > aloe vera juice, and all the dang vitamins, and
> > watching every little thing I eat, walking and
> > metamucil every day....but, I do it. I don't need a
> > soul telling me I "haven't" tried...I called the main
> > office to see about a 2-day leave extension and they
> > said it was up to the principal. I called the
> > principal and he said he had to check with the guy I
> > had just talked to. Told him I had and what he
> > said...and the principal completely fakes me out, fake
> > "get better"...he knew he was going to can me then and
> > he didn't even have the nerve to do it over the phone.
> > They know I need the health insurance, too. It's
> > like a slap in the face after two years with the
> > school....the extra hours and projects, taking work
> > home. I need to find out know if they eliminated the
> > asst. position at other high schools....if they
> > did...I'll believe...if not, I'm fighting them...I
> > want to be placed at a completely new school in an
> > office position that offers medical. I had recieved a
> > raise for re-classification of the asst. position
> > while I was on leave...so how could it have been
> > eliminated throughout all TUSD schools. I think it
> > was just my school...and just me. I need to find out
> > though...then, I'll know how to pursue it. I'm so
> > hurt and humiliated. Cobra is too expensive...and my
> > hubbys insurance is an extra $300 a month for
> > me...that's way too much. It's like we have to get
> > divorced so I can apply for low-income health services
> > and that isn't going to happen. We make too much
> > money---but, yet...not enough. You know that drill.
> > Oh, I'll survive...but, what will it take from me and
> > how sick is this whole thing going to make me trying
> > to deal with all the crap that I'll know have to deal
> > with. That'll be a tough one for Miss.
> > Sensitivity...just staying tough and strong. I feel
> > like a failure..facing my hubby, and the family that
> > didn't understand my sickness to begin with, and other
> > friends I've worked with, my neighbors...everybody.
> > I tell myself "Who cares what other people
> > think"...and I realize that "I care".
> > You've always been the
> > best to me, Jean...all your words of wisdom and all
> > the personal e-mails talking about your life has given
> > me such insight to you as a person. The insecurities
> > and adversities of your childhood and your disease
> > that crippled you as a child, your real and in-law
> > parents and their abuse, your husbands death. You
> > inspire me with what you've done with your
> > life...where you've been and where you are now...you
> > never gave up...and you've made yourself a success
> > with your home-based business (they should put you on
> > Oprah) :-) And mostly...that through it all you kept
> > your laughter and shared it with others and gave of
> > yourself to so many people. You're a fighter and I
> > admire that in you. I wish I could hug you, cry on
> > your shoulder, as I cry know, and hear you tell me
> > that I can make it...because I feel so weak inside and
> > it's hard to find the strength to move forward.
> > You've been a blessing in my life my fellow
> > Aerian...even through this computer. Love, Marianne
> > --- Jean Long <email@example.com> wrote:
> > > Marianne,
> > > Can't you collect unemployment or other
> > > compensation?
> > > I am sure they have to give you that, even people
> > > who get fired for doing something wrong get
> > > unemployment.
> > > Don't they have to give some kind of a notice or
> > > severance pay or something?
> > > Don't they give you the option to keep the insurance
> > > going yourself?
> > > Doesn't your husband have health insurance where he
> > > works, if so get put on his?
> > > I am on my husband's insurance.
> > >
> > > Do you think maybe they have another position they
> > > would let you apply for?
> > >
> > > I know it is hard to deal with all these issues on
> > > top of pain, believe me my life has been one
> > > disaster after another.
> > > Hang in there and when you calm down you can better
> > > think of something to do. You naturally must get
> > > over the initial shock first.
> > > You can't bring back what you lost but if you calm
> > > down and concentrate you may be able to come up with
> > > a solution or alternative. You have the advantage of
> > > still being young, educated and pretty......places
> > > want that. There are alot more places to work at and
> > > maybe even better than what you had, which shouldn't
> > > be hard from what I have heard from you.
> > >
> > > Look at me..... who wants a 52 year old, sickly,
> > > uneducated old lady (LOL)!
> > > JEAN
> > >
> > > "A Friend is someone who knows all about you and
> > > still loves you!!!"
> > >
>> > > ----- Original Message -----
> > > From: "marianne bolding" <firstname.lastname@example.org>
> > > To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS"
> > > <email@example.com>
> > > Sent: Saturday, August 11, 2001 4:04 PM
> > > Subject: My job
> > >
> > > I guess I need to deal with an issue that has come
> > > up...I received a letter in the mail stating..."Due
> > > to
> > > the recent budget cuts at TUSD (TUcson Unified
> > > School
> > > District) your position as a High School Finance
> > > Office Asst. has been eliminated. The Human
> > > Resources
> > > Dept. will be contacting you shortly to discuss the
> > > implications of your job being eliminated." signed
> > > my
> > > principal at the high school...my hands are shaking
> > > like a leaf. I don't even want to tell my
> > > husband...and there goes my insurance...couldn't
> > > even
> > > tell me to my face at work about this...sent it in a
> > > letter. Dreaded ARD...thanks for ruining my life.
> > > I'm a mess now. Just when I try to think
> > > positive...I
> > > always end up with some more bad news. It never
> > > ends...first adhesions, then a hernia, now I've lost
> > > my job and insurance...and almost all hope. LIFE
> > > SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Marianne
> > >
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