>----- Original Message -----
From: "jenny low" <jenklow@hotmail.com>
To: "Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS"
<adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com>
Sent: Saturday, March 10, 2001 1:38 AM
Subject: Re: Regina & ARD members!!!!
> Dear Jean,
>
> Please do not stop your posts. I think you have been a very great help to
> some of us. I am tired myself of seeing all the fighting. I am ready to
see
> support for each other no matter what we independantly decide to do. So
> please don't let all this push you away from here. You are a vital part to
> this board as we all are. So I think we should let it lie and move on.
Start
> the support from here and respect each others opinions no matter what they
> might be. Please, Jean, stick around! You are important!
>
> Love and big hugs,
> Jenny
>
> >From: creative@enter.net (Jean (from PA))
> >Reply-To: adhesions@adhesions.org
> >To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS
> ><adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com>
> >Subject: Re: Regina & ARD members!!!!
> >Date: Fri, 9 Mar 2001 23:36:13 -0600
> >
> >Regina and ARD members,
> >I am sooo sorry to hear about your terrible confrontation with Dr.
> >Redan!
> >My heart really goes out to you even if no-one elses does.
> >
> >I too feel we have a right to voice our own opinions!! Facts are facts
> >and if Sue was rude we have a "right" to say it!!! If we must watch
> >everything we say they may as well shut this SUPPORT GROUP down cause it
> >is useless.
> >On the other sites they do tell people who the good and bad doctors are
> >(in their opinion)etc.
> >
> >I DO NOT think it is in a doctor's best interest to fight or threaten
> >patients with law-suits (or otherwise) and I don't care how good he or
> >she is suppose to be!!!!
> >I have had MANY doctors in my time and have NEVER heard of such a
> >thing!! Does that mean we can also sue every doctor who tells us it is
> >all in our heads, etc. when it isn't!!!
> >MANY people tell other people if they don't like a doctor, their ethics,
> >nurses or receptionists etc.....this is NORMAL freedom of speech!
> >We still do live in the United States don't we??? Personally...most
> >doctors don't have time for all kinds of emailing and reading posts on
> >SUPPORT GROUPS in the first place. If they are so "World famous" they
> >would definitely be extremely busy compared to other doctors who aren't
> >"world famous" so WHY do they appear to have so much time on their
> >hands, may I ask????
> >How do they handle all the email and a "world" of patients at the same
> >time?? They truely MUST be very good!
> >
> >We are adults, not children and I thought the doctors were also adults
> >and not looking for fights. I thought we had all the differences etc.
> >ironed out, only to have a doctor and a select few ARD members act like
> >children and forward posts to DOCTORS!!! How immature!
> >My children acted like that!!
> >
> >I guess my other doctors are also slandering Dr. Redan, because NONE of
> >them ever heard of Dr. Redan, although they are "world famous"..... and
> >we do live in the same state!
> >They also had differing opinions on what I told them about the doctor.
> >They pointed out that some things are not in a patients's best interest.
> >One even told me if a doctor is willing to perform surgery on you
> >without first doing multiple tests to rule out other things I should RUN
> >out of their office. They also were in total dis-belief about any
> >doctor not accepting insurances and requiring pre-payment totally
> >floored them. They also were not crazy about this time-consuming
> >technical surgery (quoting some people on here and the doctors) being
> >performed as an out-patient procedure. Serious surgeries generally
> >require hospitalization if not for any other reason except observation.
> >They could not believe you stay at a motel instead. My hip-replacement
> >was regarded to Dr. Redan as a "minor" surgery compared to his adhesion
> >surgery, yet I need hospitalization for that.
> >
> >I have been very careful with my posts so as not to offend people or put
> >people down but now this really has me upset!!!
> >To each his own, but I do think I will be going to the surgeon in
> >Reading instead who acted like an adult with me.
> >He was VERY nice also and everyone I talked to knows him and says he is
> >very good at what he does and highly respected. They all say if anyone
> >around here can do something laproscopically he is the one.
> >I could really talk to him, felt very comfortable with him and we even
> >joked with each other! I was very confused on what I wanted to do after
> >Sue called today, but I think this made my decision for me.
> >I thank you Regina for being honest and not keeping important things a
> >secret from everyone else as some prefer to do. Like I said before "we
> >need info. and not just what is regarded as permissable to some
> >people"!!
> >I do not put anyone down if and when they decide to go to Scranton but I
> >want a doctor whom "I" choose and feel comfortable with.
> >
> >Just because a doctor is or isn't on the internet does that determine
> >his abilities??? Just because a doctor isn't advertised or promoted on
> >the internet means he isn't as good and doesn't know what he is
> >doing????
> >
> >This is certainly getting to be a sad, sad world.
> >
> >I don't know if anyone agrees with me or wants to hear from me ever
> >again but I am me and expect to be accepted for that. I have my own
> >view-points and can make my own decisions and if you can accept that it
> >is great, if not I can disappear. My life does not depend on this
> >support group.
> >I thought and still hope we could share our experiences with
> >one-another, but not if "everyone's" opinion doesn't matter. We had
> >"clicks" in school, we don't need that on a support group!
> >
> >I originally came here to see if anyone else was experiencing back & leg
> >pain with their adhesions but I feel there is an extreme amount of
> >pressure on here.
> >This is not good for any of us who suffer with pain!!
> >Please forgive me if I offended anyone but these are my opinions as a
> >United States citizen and as a person with equal rights. I do not think
> >this site should be "pushing" specific doctors onto people.
> >
> >On the hip-site there are MANY doctors (not a select few) mentioned from
> >time to time but nothing at all like this!
> >Mainly people talk about their experiences, offer support, listen and
> >answer questions! Doctor's names are not a constant daily thing that is
> >addressed, promoted or pushed.
> >
> > >From everything I read when I first came on this site I first was
> >impressed, then when it came to money matters I started getting very
> >vague and evasive answers etc. which scared me to death and made me
> >suspicious, then as things became overwhelming and "too good to be true"
> >I became skeptical, now I am truely upset.
> >I did VERY extensive research on everything and everyone and have spent
> >allot of time calculating pros & cons of everything.
> >
> >I am quite sure I will be bashed now also, however I hope some people
> >are growing up a bit by now (not in age either)and won't feel the need
> >to do so.
> >I will still post and respond to emails regardless of my decisions or
> >anyone elses "if I am still welcome" but I won't subject myself to
> >bashing or harassment.
> >If responses show me I am not welcome I will not have a problem with
> >that either and will accept that.
> >I am not here to fight and no doctor better call me doing so either.
> >I do not begrudge anyone or think negativly of anyone who has gone to or
> >is going to Scranton. I wish the best to everyone with their surgeries,
> >wherever they decide to go.
> >I do not have a problem with people choosing Scranton, nor do I think
> >they are doing harm to anyone.
> >I am sure there will be some with very good results and also some with
> >bad results, as will be with alot of other doctors.
> >It is great if you feel comfortable going there and have faith in your
> >doctor....that is half the battle.
> >If people ask where to find a doctor willing to help them I will have no
> >problem referring them to Scranton if it is feesable for them.
> >
> >JEAN (from PA)
> >
> >At Fri, 9 Mar 2001, Trtglia1@aol.com wrote:
> > >
> > >To all members, this is Regina and I just had a very disturbing
telephone
> > >conversation with Dr.Redan. Apparently he just returned from Mexico
and
> > >heard about my "OPINION" and wasn't happy. He called me this evening at
> >about
> > >9:10p.m. He said he spoke with his "legal counsel" and basically
> >threatened
> > >me if I didn't clarify myself I would be accused of "SLANDER". Then,
get
> > >this, he wants me to "apologize" to Sue. Some (actually a lot) of you
> > >warned me about retaliation, but I am actually shocked that a doctor
> >would
> > >actually call me at my home and harass me. He and his "legal counsel"
> >want me
> > >to clarify and make my position of my "OPINION" perfectly clear and
> >protect
> > >my career (which he basically implied could be at risk if I didn't)
My
> > >posting was an opinion meant to "pass along" my personal experience
with
> >a
> > >very good practice which was unattainable to me. It was to the members
> >of
> > >this posting board, those of us who are suffering. I will never
> >apologize
> > >for my "opinion" and it certainly wasn't meant to get any one else
> > >upset--specifically "his" patients (which I was advised strongly to
> >clarify).
> > > Please take it as only one persons "opinion" which was mine, and no
one
> > >else's. If you read any of my subsequent postings you know I only wish
> >the
> > >best for everyone and I truly was hoping that R&R could help me also.
I
> >am
> > >entitled to my "opinion" and I stick by it. I hope this teaches all of
> >us to
> > >make informed decisions. I APPRECIATE ALL OF THE SUPPORTIVE EMAILS I
> >HAVE
> > >RECEIVED. It is not only my "opinion" that is out there. I am truly
> >sorry to
> > >any patients which were unnecessarily upset and disturbed by my
> >"opinion."
> > >Beware of ever trying to help folks, you too could receive a shocking
and
> > >extremely upsetting telephone call too. I thought this was a free
> >country,
> > >but Thanks to "legal counsel" it sadly isn't. If I can't afford the
> > >prepayment I certainly cannot afford a slander suit huh? Threatening a
> > >suffering and desperate patient--this is real compassion?!? I am still
> >in
> > >shock and I am now in tremendous pain from crying writing this letter.
I
> > >wish I could have recorded the conversation. I wish you all well.
Again,
> > >this was only my opinion and was never meant to upset anyone. Best to
> > >all-stay strong and stand up for yourselves and your rights!
> > >Regina T.
> >
>