Re: (no subject)
From: Terri Lynch (tdlynch@alltel.net)
Wed Jan 24 12:45:29 2001
Dear Janet, Thanks for the advice. I believe that my home is not a good
place to be at this time either. I called my best friend today and she is
coming to get me next week and take me to her house for a small vacation.
She lives about two hours away. She is really supportive and is telling me
to leave. She sees things that I guess I over look because of love.
Unfortunately I am really a forgiving person and do take allot of the blame
for things. Dewitt is the opposite of me he blames me. I nag to much or I
guess he thinks I ask to much of him. And to be honest I have no idea where
he gets that. I never ask anything of him that I know he can't get. I never
ask for anything that cost money. I ask of him to be compassionate and
affectionate. He seems to lack that. I don't know if he can't or if he
won't. I know I deserve to be supported. He made a comment two weekends ago
about hang in there and be supportive of him. But my problem is where is my
support. I have decided to get counseling. I am in a sever depression right
now. It has really helped to have all of you to talk to. I cry as I read
everyone's emails. It just feels so good to have someone know how I feel and
to just understand. Thank you so much.
Love Terri
-----Original Message-----
From: Janet <jkaram4@home.com>
To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <adhesions@mail.medispecialty.com>
Date: Wednesday, January 24, 2001 11:11 AM
Subject: Re: (no subject)
>Dear Terri,
>
>I have so much I could say, but am at loss exactly what to say. Many of
>us had experienced similar if not the same thing you are going through
>with friends, family, and life in general. There is so much that ARD
>robs us of. I had a serious relationship that ended after my last
>adhesiolysis, so I understand.
>
>What you desreve is to be around people who love you and support
>you...this is the environment you need to be in gight now...every day
>from now until your surgery!!! The grief of everything else in life that
>you lose to ARD before getting the right help is devestating and
>draining enough without the threat of your spouse to leave. I am sad
>that you are in an environment that sounds so lacking of love and
>compassion...you NEED this!
>
>It is not your fault that you are sick. I have made a strong effort and
>commitment to not taking my anger and frustration on my boyfriend. In
>many ways, Terri, I believe this can be almost harder on the ones who
>are closest to us...I believe that they have enough grief and suffering
>as well, without us piling more on them. So, you're right it is a two
>way street, but if it's beyond repair right now,a nd you are unable to
>get the love and comfort you so desperately need in your home, I would
>suggest you find a place where you can have this until your surgery.
>
>Big Hug and lots of Love,
>
>Janet
>