>----- Original Message -----
From: Bernie and Beverly Doucette <bnb@cybrzn.com>
To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <adhesions@forum.obgyn.net>
Sent: Sunday, February 27, 2000 12:36 PM
Subject: Re: Karen says hello for Kathy
> Dear Karen and all...
> As I sit here writing this to you, I am filled with such immense
emotions.
> As these tears of joy run down my face, I am thinking of all the letters,
> phone calls and e-mails that Kathy and I have shared over this past year.
> Kathy suffering so with pain, unrelenting pain, we all know it don't we?
She
> was also filled with fear, frustration, and hopelessness, add that to the
> pain and suffering of all the added symptoms of our disease and you get
one
> pretty sad , sick human being. What is so good about this forum is that as
I
> write these words describing the suffering, one doesn't have wonder if
those
> reading it will comprehend what is actually being said, the realism of the
> words, I know you all can all to well, comprehend Kathy's suffering as I
> write it!
>
> I sit here thinking about the times that Kathy wasn't sure she could get
> through another day would she be able to keep her job, as she was missing
> work so often and when she was there, it was though to get through because
> of her pain. How would she continue to take care of her daughter, just a
> little girl, and what kind of a mother am I being sick all the time? Yes,
> she knew about Dr. Reich, you all know me, of course I would be telling
her
> about him, but money, a single patent, losing work days, Kathy knew about
> Dr. Reich, but that was like looking into a crystal ball and wishing! And
> we all know that if you wish in one hand and poop in another, which will
get
> filled faster don't we!!!
>
> Kathy would always say to me, " Bev, I want to be well again, but there is
> no way possible for me to EVER be able to get to New York, never! " I am
> going to be like this until I die! " Oh how she was suffering! My heart
was
> breaking, all I could do was support her, steer here a bit here or there
to
> get assertive with her Dr's and get pain medications...the routine we all
> know! I find the hopelessness the most debilitating of anything that an
> adhesion sufferer is dealing with, to be hopeless is to be dying! And she
> was, dying in her heart and mind, I was too when I was so ill! Dr. Reich
> had already been alerted to Kathy's case and felt he could help her, now
it
> was up to us to get her there. that wasn't going to prove to be an easy
tast
> either!
>
> Again, my heart is breaking because I know that so many of you are still
at
> that point and there seems to be so little that I or anyone can do to take
> that from you..if I could absorb that from each one of you to set you free
I
> would!
>
> I called Kathy the eve of Thanksgiving as she had made the call to Dr.
> Reichs office to ask questions, and found that she would need a massive
> amount of money as a down payment just to get the appointment. That of
> course, brogught her down to knees , again hopelessness filled her
> heart..and her home. This pain and suffering does not just deal a blow to
> those suffering this disease, it deals a blow to all who love and care
about
> that person...Kathy's house was filled with despair that holiday evening.
I
> found out about it through an e-mail she wrote me, but she was filled with
> so much pain and all encompassing hurt, that she refused to answer my amny
> attempts to contact her through this e-mail! I had no idea how to reach
her
> personaly, but I knew that a personal contact was now in order here....the
> question was how to find her!
>
> I went through my files, found a last name, my husband started the person
> search for a phone number...everything avenue we tried hit a brick wall!
No
> phone number listed for her in her state. One the seventh phone call of
> persons with the same last name, my husband was able to make contact with
an
> older lady. Bernie explained our plight about this lady named Kathy with
the
> same last name in this same state as the one on the phone. ": Do you know
> any Kathy with your last name? " Bernie asked. "And who would be calling
> her if I did? " came the reply. Bernie then went on to explain about that
I
> worked for the International Adhesion Society and was attempting to make
> contact with Kathy because I needed to speak to her about a Dr. in New
York.
> " I am Kathy's grandmother and I will call her for you, give me your
number
> and I'll give it to her." was the response." Kathy's phone number is
> unlisted, but she doesn't live far from me and I'll call her right away!"
>
> At 8pm, thanksgivivng eve, Kathy called me. Our first voice
> communication, we talked for an hour. I was able to at least offer
support,
> and bring her up enough for her and her daughter to enjoy the holidays. I
> said we would lok at every avenue possible to come up with some money for
> surgery with reich and not to lose faith, as God some way somehow, always
> comes through when it is least expected...to trust God is one of the
> toughest things a human can do. We have a very hard time deaing in HIS
time,
> and we always want to know the plan,,well, with God that doesn't always
> happen, and that is why he gave us faith, faith to trust him, to call upon
> him, we talked about faith. Even in the midst of what we think is the
> toughest and lowest point in our lives, if we call upon God to hold us, to
> carry us through becuase we will trust in him even when we don't know what
> will happen...he will be there and will fill us with his spirit to get us
> through! Through to what you night be wondering. I believe he will get
us
> through the time it takes for his plan to produce for us...and it will
> produce my dearest people, it will!
>
> Kathy was better, not physicaly, but had some renewed strength to look
> into avenues that may help her get to Dr. reich, as that was her ultimate
> goal..surgery with Dr. Reich! Well, things didn't move to positive in the
> direction of getting enough money to get to him anytime soon, that was for
> sure...we wonder at times why God makes us wait for things when we are
> suffering so and he is all mighty and could at the snap of a finger,
chnage
> things for us, make good things happen for us..save us from
> suffering..right? Well, we sure know it doesn't work that way for
us...why?
> Because God has given us all a free will, and that means that he must also
> wait for doors to open , the doors of peoples hearts so that they, Gods
> people will reach out and change anothers life, here on earth is where
that
> must happen...I do belive though, that God himself, in all his infinate
> mercy and love of us, opens doors for us to walk through IF we elect to
walk
> through them...that means all peaople. Those who can make lifes walk a
> little easier for others must want to do that, and those who need that
help
> must be open to receiving it or seeing that it is there for them..all a
> matter of free will, but that is also how Gods hand reachs out to us,
> through his people.... where is this taking us in regards to Kathy? Well,
> read on!
>
> The Season of joy and giving was upon us..the Christms season..the
season
> of miracles!
> Christmas eve, came and went uneventful for me, Christmas day came and
> went, again uneventful for me!
> But the day after Christmas, I receive this most jubilant phone call, the
> voice on the other end was so excited, laughing, crying...most ecstatic!
My
> goodness, "Who is this, " I asked once I thought I would be heard!!
>
> " It's me, Kathy!" I'm going to New york!" I'm having my surgery with
> Dr Reich! " All I could ask was,
> " How?" " Well, after all the gifts were opened at our family gathering
> yesterday, " She shared. " My grandmother got up and walked over to me and
> handed me an envelope with enough money for me to have my surgery!! " my
> little girl hugged me, I cried, we all cried, I'm going to be well
again,it
> was a miracle!"...
>
> My dear friends, It was a miracle, miracle's do happen, they are as real
> today as you read in the bible! I share this with you toady as you follow
> kathy's walk to health. This coulnd't happen two years ago, not even one
and
> a half years ago becuase there was no society like this, no talk or
wareness
> of adhesions and we were all so alone...through miracles, Gods
intervenons,
> we are watching yet another of our feloow sufferers live agian...raised
from
> that death that is within those who suffer ARD!
>
> I am so filled with joy and happiness for Kathy as I know her story will
> offer hope to those of you who may think there is no hope! Her story ia a
> testiment to our God, who no matter how your suffering or feeling, is
there
> with you and working hard for your recovery! It takes people, real people
to
> open the doors and reach out...
>
> I beg all family members, friends, co - workers to listen to and respond
to
> the needs, the hopes, the ways that the suffering person, who is reaching
> out to you, so desperately wants you to help them with! Please listen,
> please help them find the way to live again! What is more impotant then
> having a human life enhanced by your actions and intervention? what is
there
> to share in life if there isn't that special person to share it with, all
> things become nothing if they cannot be enjoyed with the one you love!
look
> at that suffering person, look long and hard...think you cannot afford DR.
> Reich? What is that life worth? A second morgage? Yes! A loan? Yes! Credit
> card max? Yes! A fund raiser if neccesary! Yes!
>
> This person you see suffering with adhesion pain has every right to live
> again when there is someone out there who can help them..they at least
have
> a right to have that chance to see if DR. reich can help them...they have
as
> much as a need and right as someone who needs an organ transplant. This
> sufferring is real, it requires a specialist who is so well versed in its
> treatment becuase of the nature of this beast the surgeon MUST be the best
> in the world, and there IS only one " best " and that IS DR. Reich. The
good
> news is that as we speak, Dr. reich has trained two of his associated as
to
> his procedure. Dr. Vadali and Dr. Evanko are now taking adhesion patients
in
> New York. Dr. Reich is currently looking at opening a full staffed medical
> center to treat adhesion patients!
>
> This offers all of you that same hope that Kathy found...that I have found
> and a few others as well. It is our stories that I pray will get you
through
> when you think you can't make it one more day, one more minute as you push
> through your life....Remember these words that Kathy spoke two days after
> her surgery, " I feel the difference already!" And Kathy will continue to
> gain strength, to heal from her surgery and on with her life!
>
> The one thing that I have noticed on the faces of those who have had an
> adhesiolysis under Dr. Reichs capable hands, is a great big grin from ear
to
> ear...it doesn't leave, I know mine hasn't!
>
> If I can be of any assistance to any of you, please contact me, I am here
> for you not only in words, but action!
>
> God Bless all or you and know he is with you!
> In friendship
> Beverly
>> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Karen Kaplan <kkaplan@eclipse.net>
> To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <adhesions@forum.obgyn.net>
> Sent: Saturday, February 26, 2000 10:15 PM
> Subject: Karen says hello for Kathy
>
> > Thanks Toni - I had a long day too - usually I sleep on Saturday because
I
> > am so tired, but I got another bill from the hospital last night and HAD
> to
> > send off my letter to get them off my back (the hospital where I had my
> hyst
> > last summer is in a contract dispute with US Healthcare over low
> > reimbursement, so they are billing me for what USHC didn't pay!). So,
> up
> > at 6, letter finished & mailed, then dentist & hair - so nice to have
> clean
> > teeth and a new cut, plus I love my dentist because it's one part of my
> body
> > that's in good shape), and then I drove into Manhattan to see Kathy and
> her
> > friend Charlotte.
> > They are at the Mayflower Hotel on Central Park West and 61st Street
with
> a
> > park view and a nice suite - Kathy's employer is a friend of the owner.
> We
> > should all be so lucky to have a boss that caring. I told them that if
> the
> > suite was an apartment, it would rent for about $2500-3000/month because
> the
> > rooms & closets are so big.
> > Kathy said she felt much better today, but is still weak and not able to
> get
> > out. Without any comparison, I thought she looked very good, and she
said
> > she could already feel the difference despite the pain from the surgery
> > itself, and she is still passing off the rest of the Ringer's lactate
that
> > is an important part of Dr. Reich's treatment. It sounds amazing what
he
> > can do with laparascopy. She had a hernia that she didn't know about,
but
> > the rest was too complex for me to remember since I talked too much,
which
> > was probably just as well cause she was still tired from the anesthetic.
> >
> > They are hoping to get out tomorrow, and into the park, tho Kathy will
be
> in
> > a wheelchair. If I can, I will try to go back in and give them a short
> car
> > tour of some of the landmarks in Manhattan since they are planning to go
> > back to Florida on Tuesday. Tomorrow is supposed to be like spring,
which
> > was a disappointment to Kathy- she wants some snow!
> > As I left, they were going to order some Chinese food after I explained
> that
> > you can get ANYTHING delivered for free in that part of Manhattan.
> > At which point, I headed uptown to order some Chinese with my best
friend
> in
> > the complex where I used to live. This was a breakthrough for me to
have
> > such a long active day-
> >
> > Ok, shut up Karen
> > Good night all.
> >
>> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: toni welsh <twelsh1@hotmail.com>
> > To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <adhesions@forum.obgyn.net>
> > Sent: Saturday, February 26, 2000 6:10 PM
> > Subject: Just a hello
> >
> > > Just a quick note to say hello to all you, we have been sort of busy.
> We
> > > took a LONG ride today to 4 different flea markets, and found nothing.
> > > It was too pretty to stay in, and my husband said he wanted me to get
> > > out of the hpuse, this week I got in the mood to not go out again and
> > > the spring weather we are having right now should help for now.
> > >
> > > I still am the same as I have been and still very confused, but I am
> > > hanging in there for awhile, and hoping like all of us the barriers
will
> > > be available for us soon. I am glad that Kathy's surgery went well,
and
> > > that she is recovering okay. I hope you keep us informed on how she
is
> > > doing! Hope you are all doing alright today!
> > >
> > > Toni
> > >
> > > to the unsubscribe form at
http://www.adhesions.org/forums/listcmds.htm
> > >
> >
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