I sit here thinking about the times that Kathy wasn't sure she could get through another day would she be able to keep her job, as she was missing work so often and when she was there, it was though to get through because of her pain. How would she continue to take care of her daughter, just a little girl, and what kind of a mother am I being sick all the time? Yes, she knew about Dr. Reich, you all know me, of course I would be telling her about him, but money, a single patent, losing work days, Kathy knew about Dr. Reich, but that was like looking into a crystal ball and wishing! And we all know that if you wish in one hand and poop in another, which will get filled faster don't we!!!
Kathy would always say to me, " Bev, I want to be well again, but there is no way possible for me to EVER be able to get to New York, never! " I am going to be like this until I die! " Oh how she was suffering! My heart was breaking, all I could do was support her, steer here a bit here or there to get assertive with her Dr's and get pain medications...the routine we all know! I find the hopelessness the most debilitating of anything that an adhesion sufferer is dealing with, to be hopeless is to be dying! And she was, dying in her heart and mind, I was too when I was so ill! Dr. Reich had already been alerted to Kathy's case and felt he could help her, now it was up to us to get her there. that wasn't going to prove to be an easy tast either!
Again, my heart is breaking because I know that so many of you are still at that point and there seems to be so little that I or anyone can do to take that from you..if I could absorb that from each one of you to set you free I would!
I called Kathy the eve of Thanksgiving as she had made the call to Dr. Reichs office to ask questions, and found that she would need a massive amount of money as a down payment just to get the appointment. That of course, brogught her down to knees , again hopelessness filled her heart..and her home. This pain and suffering does not just deal a blow to those suffering this disease, it deals a blow to all who love and care about that person...Kathy's house was filled with despair that holiday evening. I found out about it through an e-mail she wrote me, but she was filled with so much pain and all encompassing hurt, that she refused to answer my amny attempts to contact her through this e-mail! I had no idea how to reach her personaly, but I knew that a personal contact was now in order here....the question was how to find her!
I went through my files, found a last name, my husband started the person search for a phone number...everything avenue we tried hit a brick wall! No phone number listed for her in her state. One the seventh phone call of persons with the same last name, my husband was able to make contact with an older lady. Bernie explained our plight about this lady named Kathy with the same last name in this same state as the one on the phone. ": Do you know any Kathy with your last name? " Bernie asked. "And who would be calling her if I did? " came the reply. Bernie then went on to explain about that I worked for the International Adhesion Society and was attempting to make contact with Kathy because I needed to speak to her about a Dr. in New York. " I am Kathy's grandmother and I will call her for you, give me your number and I'll give it to her." was the response." Kathy's phone number is unlisted, but she doesn't live far from me and I'll call her right away!"
At 8pm, thanksgivivng eve, Kathy called me. Our first voice communication, we talked for an hour. I was able to at least offer support, and bring her up enough for her and her daughter to enjoy the holidays. I said we would lok at every avenue possible to come up with some money for surgery with reich and not to lose faith, as God some way somehow, always comes through when it is least expected...to trust God is one of the toughest things a human can do. We have a very hard time deaing in HIS time, and we always want to know the plan,,well, with God that doesn't always happen, and that is why he gave us faith, faith to trust him, to call upon him, we talked about faith. Even in the midst of what we think is the toughest and lowest point in our lives, if we call upon God to hold us, to carry us through becuase we will trust in him even when we don't know what will happen...he will be there and will fill us with his spirit to get us through! Through to what you night be wondering. I believe he will get us through the time it takes for his plan to produce for us...and it will produce my dearest people, it will!
Kathy was better, not physicaly, but had some renewed strength to look into avenues that may help her get to Dr. reich, as that was her ultimate goal..surgery with Dr. Reich! Well, things didn't move to positive in the direction of getting enough money to get to him anytime soon, that was for sure...we wonder at times why God makes us wait for things when we are suffering so and he is all mighty and could at the snap of a finger, chnage things for us, make good things happen for us..save us from suffering..right? Well, we sure know it doesn't work that way for us...why? Because God has given us all a free will, and that means that he must also wait for doors to open , the doors of peoples hearts so that they, Gods people will reach out and change anothers life, here on earth is where that must happen...I do belive though, that God himself, in all his infinate mercy and love of us, opens doors for us to walk through IF we elect to walk through them...that means all peaople. Those who can make lifes walk a little easier for others must want to do that, and those who need that help must be open to receiving it or seeing that it is there for them..all a matter of free will, but that is also how Gods hand reachs out to us, through his people.... where is this taking us in regards to Kathy? Well, read on!
The Season of joy and giving was upon us..the Christms season..the season of miracles! Christmas eve, came and went uneventful for me, Christmas day came and went, again uneventful for me! But the day after Christmas, I receive this most jubilant phone call, the voice on the other end was so excited, laughing, crying...most ecstatic! My goodness, "Who is this, " I asked once I thought I would be heard!!
" It's me, Kathy!" I'm going to New york!" I'm having my surgery with Dr Reich! " All I could ask was, " How?" " Well, after all the gifts were opened at our family gathering yesterday, " She shared. " My grandmother got up and walked over to me and handed me an envelope with enough money for me to have my surgery!! " my little girl hugged me, I cried, we all cried, I'm going to be well again,it was a miracle!"...
My dear friends, It was a miracle, miracle's do happen, they are as real today as you read in the bible! I share this with you toady as you follow kathy's walk to health. This coulnd't happen two years ago, not even one and a half years ago becuase there was no society like this, no talk or wareness of adhesions and we were all so alone...through miracles, Gods intervenons, we are watching yet another of our feloow sufferers live agian...raised from that death that is within those who suffer ARD!
I am so filled with joy and happiness for Kathy as I know her story will offer hope to those of you who may think there is no hope! Her story ia a testiment to our God, who no matter how your suffering or feeling, is there with you and working hard for your recovery! It takes people, real people to open the doors and reach out...
I beg all family members, friends, co - workers to listen to and respond to the needs, the hopes, the ways that the suffering person, who is reaching out to you, so desperately wants you to help them with! Please listen, please help them find the way to live again! What is more impotant then having a human life enhanced by your actions and intervention? what is there to share in life if there isn't that special person to share it with, all things become nothing if they cannot be enjoyed with the one you love! look at that suffering person, look long and hard...think you cannot afford DR. Reich? What is that life worth? A second morgage? Yes! A loan? Yes! Credit card max? Yes! A fund raiser if neccesary! Yes!
This person you see suffering with adhesion pain has every right to live again when there is someone out there who can help them..they at least have a right to have that chance to see if DR. reich can help them...they have as much as a need and right as someone who needs an organ transplant. This sufferring is real, it requires a specialist who is so well versed in its treatment becuase of the nature of this beast the surgeon MUST be the best in the world, and there IS only one " best " and that IS DR. Reich. The good news is that as we speak, Dr. reich has trained two of his associated as to his procedure. Dr. Vadali and Dr. Evanko are now taking adhesion patients in New York. Dr. Reich is currently looking at opening a full staffed medical center to treat adhesion patients!
This offers all of you that same hope that Kathy found...that I have found and a few others as well. It is our stories that I pray will get you through when you think you can't make it one more day, one more minute as you push through your life....Remember these words that Kathy spoke two days after her surgery, " I feel the difference already!" And Kathy will continue to gain strength, to heal from her surgery and on with her life!
The one thing that I have noticed on the faces of those who have had an adhesiolysis under Dr. Reichs capable hands, is a great big grin from ear to ear...it doesn't leave, I know mine hasn't!
If I can be of any assistance to any of you, please contact me, I am here for you not only in words, but action!
God Bless all or you and know he is with you! In friendship Beverly
>----- Original Message -----
From: Karen Kaplan <email@example.com> To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <firstname.lastname@example.org> Sent: Saturday, February 26, 2000 10:15 PM Subject: Karen says hello for Kathy
> Thanks Toni - I had a long day too - usually I sleep on Saturday because I
> am so tired, but I got another bill from the hospital last night and HAD
to > send off my letter to get them off my back (the hospital where I had my
hyst > last summer is in a contract dispute with US Healthcare over low
> reimbursement, so they are billing me for what USHC didn't pay!). So,
up > at 6, letter finished & mailed, then dentist & hair - so nice to have
clean > teeth and a new cut, plus I love my dentist because it's one part of my
body > that's in good shape), and then I drove into Manhattan to see Kathy and
her > friend Charlotte.
> They are at the Mayflower Hotel on Central Park West and 61st Street with
a > park view and a nice suite - Kathy's employer is a friend of the owner.
We > should all be so lucky to have a boss that caring. I told them that if
the > suite was an apartment, it would rent for about $2500-3000/month because
the > rooms & closets are so big.
> Kathy said she felt much better today, but is still weak and not able to
get > out. Without any comparison, I thought she looked very good, and she said
> she could already feel the difference despite the pain from the surgery
> itself, and she is still passing off the rest of the Ringer's lactate that
> is an important part of Dr. Reich's treatment. It sounds amazing what he
> can do with laparascopy. She had a hernia that she didn't know about, but
> the rest was too complex for me to remember since I talked too much, which
> was probably just as well cause she was still tired from the anesthetic.
> They are hoping to get out tomorrow, and into the park, tho Kathy will be
in > a wheelchair. If I can, I will try to go back in and give them a short
car > tour of some of the landmarks in Manhattan since they are planning to go
> back to Florida on Tuesday. Tomorrow is supposed to be like spring, which
> was a disappointment to Kathy- she wants some snow!
> As I left, they were going to order some Chinese food after I explained
that > you can get ANYTHING delivered for free in that part of Manhattan.
> At which point, I headed uptown to order some Chinese with my best friend
in > the complex where I used to live. This was a breakthrough for me to have
> such a long active day-
> Ok, shut up Karen
> Good night all.
>> ----- Original Message -----
> From: toni welsh <email@example.com>
> To: Multiple recipients of list ADHESIONS <firstname.lastname@example.org>
> Sent: Saturday, February 26, 2000 6:10 PM
> Subject: Just a hello
> > Just a quick note to say hello to all you, we have been sort of busy.
We > > took a LONG ride today to 4 different flea markets, and found nothing.
> > It was too pretty to stay in, and my husband said he wanted me to get
> > out of the hpuse, this week I got in the mood to not go out again and
> > the spring weather we are having right now should help for now.
> > I still am the same as I have been and still very confused, but I am
> > hanging in there for awhile, and hoping like all of us the barriers will
> > be available for us soon. I am glad that Kathy's surgery went well, and
> > that she is recovering okay. I hope you keep us informed on how she is
> > doing! Hope you are all doing alright today!
> > Toni