I'm sorry to hear that the Pain Clinic doesn't seem to be helping. When do you see your gyn again for the next appt? Maybe you should tell him about it if you haven't already. Also, does your ins plan offer other pain managent clinics in case he recommend someone else? I hope that you won't have to go thru another surgery but if that's the way that it has to be I hope that it helps you feel better.
As for your father-in-law, I'm sorry to hear that he's sick. Do you have other family members close by that could help you take care of him? The reason that I'm asking is b/c I'm having to get help in taking care of my grandma. I take care of her by myself during the day and it's hard for me to do at times b/c I've not been well myself the last several months. I do try to hang in there though.
Please know that I'm here for you if you ever want to talk.
Take care,
-- Kristy :)